Saturday, April 08, 2017

A letter to a professional victim professor

This is another follow-up to these blog posts


http://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2015/04/problems-at-hsl.html
http://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2015/06/professional-victim-professor-part-2.html
http://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2015/07/professional-victim-professor-part-3.html

http://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2016/06/intellectual-freedom-frauds.html
http://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2016/09/intellectual-freedom-frauds-part-2.html

http://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2017/01/fear-and-lack-of-intellectual-depth.html

AS well as the following videos
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cGzYQTvK7kM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p6oCIx6Ov1M
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wIypdqNqzlY
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PT0XoQG_x38


Those blog posts are in regards to the professors in UH-Manoa's Library & Information Science (LIS) program as well as Hawaii State Library internship supervisor.


But I want to do more than just write blog posts and film videos about those people.  I want to now write  directly to those people. Because at this point, everything I said about them is out there, I just need to make sure they know that 1) the information about them is already out there,  2) it's too late to try cover up anything, 3) I'm now saying to them and not backing down!


This is what I wrote to Noriko Asato (aka professional victim professor) a few weeks ago.






Aloha Dr Noriko Asato, 

You might remember those posters taped to the LIS windows?  I know who put them up there!

2 years ago, you told me in your office that I can vent to you! Whenever you say that, you should always expect that person to express their rawest emotions and thoughts to you! You have to accept that if you want to people to be honest with you! You lose credibility in calling yourself "afraid" when you tell someone you can "vent to me", especially when not a single word spoken or written can be classified as a threat! A disagreement is not a threat!

When you told me Tisha told people that I "shouldn't be working with children", that was extremely hurtful! You then had the nerve to tell me I shouldn't be upset about it! You really think that would automatically make me feel better! That only made me feel more angry! I still get filled with extreme rage everytime I remember you telling me I shouldn't be angry about Tisha saying I "shouldn't be working with children". This was very painful because I spent a decade working with children! How would it feel when your years of hard work is disrespected? How would it feel when right after that, you get told that you shouldn't be upset about it?

When I worked in retail, I was instructed in orientation to never tell an upset person to not feel upset! In LIS 601 & LIS 683, students were instructed to never tell upset person to not feel upset. When I was trained to be substitute teacher, I was instructed to never tell an upset student to not feel upset. Those supervisors all know that telling upset to not be upset will only make those people more upset!

By telling me that I shouldn't be upset when told Tisha "I shouldn't be working with children", you are essentially saying that you think that what I was taught in LIS 610 and LIS 683  was wrong!

By telling me that I shouldn't be upset when told Tisha "I shouldn't be working with children", you are essentially saying that you think that what I was taught in orientation in retail work was wrong!

By telling me that I shouldn't be upset when told Tisha "I shouldn't be working with children", you are essentially saying that you think that what I was taught in substitute teacher training was wrong!

If what those instructors were saying is wrong, you need to back up your words with logic and reasons, not cliches and false claims of being "afraid".

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Also, you magnified the problem when you asked me to sign a statement to withdraw my complaints with HSPLS! Did you really think that would end the problem? Really?    Only a severe dumbass wouldn't know that magnify the problems. It is that statement that inspired me to write critical blog posts and videos about you! 

By asking me to sign a statement to withdraw my complaints with HSPLS, you are telling that you are the type of person that would tell a rape victim to be silent about his/her experiences.

By asking me to sign a statement to withdraw my complaints with HSPLS, you are telling that you are the type of person that would tell MLK, Susan Anthony and other civil rights leader to shut up and accept discrimination.

By asking me to sign a statement to withdraw my complaints with HSPLS, you are telling that you are the type of person that would tell AJA victims of internment to accept what happened to them. (PS: I know you did research on that issue, so asking me to sign the statement of silence is even more disgusting coming from you)

EVERY SINGLE TIME I read an article, or watch a documentary when it was mentioned that a victim of rape, bullying or discrimination is asked to remain silent about  what happened, my memory flashes back to you asking me to sign a statement to withdraw complaint, my memory flashes back to you telling me not to be angry about Tisha saying I "shouldn't be working with children"! When I have those flashbacks, I get very angry again! If you really thought I was going to stop being angry when you tell me to, then you need to watch this following video that I didn't make, but can help you understand the severe psychological harm of your words




After you asked me to sign a statement to withdraw complaints, I told you that the only reason I haven't posted a blog post about the way Tisha was treating me because I wanted to meeting with her supervisor. Because I mentioned the blog post, you said "I feel threatened" when nothing I said could be classified as a threat. You then said "that's just how I feel"

Excuse me? "That's just how I feel"? 

You want me to respect how you feel?

But you didn't respect how I feel about Tisha making character assassinations against me!

But you want to respect how you feel? IT doesn't work that way! 

You tell me "it's not good to have anger".  Noriko Asato, you need to be told "it's not good to have fear".  Does that hurt your feelings? Then how do you think I feel when I'm told "it's not good to have anger? 


If you tell me "it's not good to have anger", then you have ZERO credibility to tell anyone that you feel upset about my emails to you!  Practice what you preach, or change what you preach! You can't do both!

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When I mentioned all this to the university psychologist, he was horrified by your words,  He read all the emails I sent to you! He was still horrified by the way you treated me.


 The psychologist  was horrified when you tell me "it's not good to have anger" and  to "withdraw complaints".

So, how are you more correct than a trained psychologist?
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In my previous emails, I compared Western cultures and Asian cultures. My #1 regret in those emails is that I forgot to mention Hawaiian culture, the host culture of where we are!

In Hawaiian culture, there is ho'oponopono, This when different sides come together to discuss the problems and we come to a resolution. This was exactly what I was asking for when I requested to meet with HSL branch manager. That you refused to go along with the idea is a severe disrespect to the Native Hawaiian culture and the spirit of ho'oponopono!  

You need to understand that when there is a ho'oponopono session, there will be some anger expressed, You have to experience the discomfort, you cannot be afraid of a disagreement. You cannot be afraid of anger! You have to listen without interruptions (something you couldn't do when we met). You have to listen with empathy(something you couldn't do when we met).  You are supposed to be a coordinator, you cannot be afraid of a disagreement, you have to embrace ho'oponopono sessions where some anger and disagreement is expressed. You can't solve problems without it! You are ineffective in solving problems, you only want to sweep problems under the rug! The problem is that is that it would be exposed in online forums where people will read about your psychologically dangerous way. One of your former students thanked me for making a video publicly criticizing you and she felt guilty for being silent about the way you treated her!  In this era, people don't remain silent about being pressured into silence. Those days are over and will never appear again!
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Please understand that when the ALA accreditation team met with the LIS students, they didn't ask a single question about the internship program. I was mentally prepared to loudly denounce your practices in front of everyone.

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So yeah, people might view those posters as "passive-agressive" and "childish". But you know what, I can hold it in for only so long!  I will never remain silent. I will never again wait to express to you how much pain you put me through! 

The best thing you can do is to apologize using your organization's letterhead. Apologize for the way you treated me! Apologize for not using the ho'oponopono practices that could've solved my dispute with HSL! Apologize for telling me "not to be upset"!  When you do, I will let the world know that you are finally willing to admit that could've handled things better. 


Just know that this email can go public whenever I feel like making it public. Also, please understand that any responses, positive or negative, will be made public.


Mahalo,

Pablo Wegesend


That was several weeks ago. No response, no apology!

She has been warned that this email was going to go public whenever I feel like it! 

She's now known as a scumbag who refuse to apologize when it's all explained to her!