Remember back in the school days, when your peers keep complaining "this school sucks"?
They're usually complaining about stuff that goes on in every school out there!
But yeah, for some people, it always suck worst wherever they are!
Tells you a lot more about them than the school they're complaining about!
But this mentality isn't only limited to schools.
Even in the USA, a place where millions try to come here, (even if they got to run through a desert or use a wooden boat), some people still feel "this country is so bad, this society is so bad", blah, blah!
Yes, this country has flaws! So does everywhere else!
And many times, the flaws are even worse. Or the flaws are a product of human nature, not our society!
A good example of someone who doesn't understand that is this American feminist blogger named Jessica Valenti
photo from The Nation
Jessica Valenti
She's angry that girls have to grow up dealing with body-image issues. OK, a serious issue
http://www.thenation.com/blog/169208/upside-ugly
Then she ends her article with this
This is a f-----d-up country to grow up in, especially as a girl. And we all want to give young women the tools necessary to succeed. So let’s teach girls to survive a misogynist culture with a fist, not a smile.
Well, ms Valenti, if those issues make you feel this is a "f-----d up country to grow up in" , well guess what, this insecurity of body images is a worldwide thing!
In other words, Ms Valenti is just like that kid who says "this school sucks" when every other school has the same exact problems!
This one response nails it in the head
Miguel Baq
The author has a problem human nature, not with "this country" or "society". Anyone who has spent time outside of the USA knows that the latin countries, and the Arab ones especially, value female beauty much more than the USA.
When in history has this not been true?
Unwittingly, the author has illuminated the character of the "Nation" crowd - former nerds who hate this country and hate society, because ultimately, they hate thems themselves even more. It just makes life easier to project their self-loathing outward.
The author's by-line is:"Feminism, sexuality & social justice. With a sense of humor." How deliciously funny. A more angry, humorless, sexist rant is scarcely conceivable.
"So let’s teach girls to survive a misogynist culture with a fist, not a smile." Sounds like a good working title for Revenge of the Nerds Part 9.
and also this
Miguel Baq
First, she is mixing metaphors. Misogny is hatred of all women, not just the ugly ones. Just because men don't love her, doesn't mean that al women are hated.
Second, she DOES have a problem with human nature. It is not just this society that values beauty over ugliness, EVERY society in history has done so, implying that human nature is the cause.
Did the Roman emperors chose ugly women or beautiful ones? How about the Chinese or the Egyptians or the Incas? Every society in history has had standards of beauty,and the beauties get the brass ring.
This country did not just wake up one day and decide to invent qualities called "beauty" and "ugliness" out of whole cloth. Men of the human species are genetically programmed to seek the mates that have markers for youth and health - i.e. the attractive ones.
Telling a girl to "survive a misogynist culture with a fist, not a smile", is inviting her to an ass kicking - her own.
AMEN TO THAT!
Look, I'm not saying body image issues aren't serious!
My problem with Valenti is she's acting if this is just limited to the USA, when this is a worldwide issue!
Look, show a picture of Rihanna to any teenage boy in the world, they all get excited!
Rihanna
You can show that photo to a boy in Barbados, Hawaii, France, North Korea, Papua New Guinea, Afghanistan................ wherever................... the boys will all get excited looking at her!
This is nature in action!
Males are genetically programmed to be sexually attracted to a certain type of female.
And therefore, some females will attract more boys than others!
And because of that, other females grow up to be jealous, angry & bitter, just like Jessica Valenti!
And to be fair, females are more likely to be attracted to a male who is strong and athletic!
Why else would the athletic boys get all the girls?
Vogue cover
Hope Solo, Ryan Lochte, Venus Williams
And some boys will get jealous and grow up to become angry, bitter losers!
This stuff isn't the fault of "society" or (in Valenti's words) a "f----d up country", it has more to do with evolution and DNA!
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Valenti also talked about a girl who was teased about her ears, this has NOTHING to do with the USA being what she calls a "f---d up country". The following response to Valenti says it all!
The culture doesn't change too much across borders. I worked in education last year in Canada and the conformity and gossiping, combined with the boredom of most students, was rampant. To the article's point I heard a regular stream of girl bashing both from boys and girls, a lot of repeating of pop culture, some of it tipping far into the vulgar-crass regions. Getting paid, doin' this and that with women, etc, etc.
That's right, even in "humane, progressive" Canada, it doesn't change....... bullying still happens, not just the "f----d up country" that Ms Valenti calls the USA!
Because no matter how "humane", "progressive" or "moral" the country/state/community claims to be, kids are NOT politically correct people!
Children don't always know how to deal with differences well! So if you look different from everyone else .............oh, oh!
Children don't know how to restrain their mouth!
Children are just blunt!
That's evolution's fault!
Nothing to do with media, or a "f----d up country"
