I was riding on the bus going home today, where I heard a woman telling a young girl (early elementary age) "you have to hit those girls picking on you, and they'll leave you alone!"
It's one thing to train children to stand up for themselves, but telling them "if you hit back, the bullies will leave you alone" is GIVING THEM UNREALISTIC HOPES!
The chances are, bullies pick on people they can outnumber! That's the whole point!
You hit someone who has more allies than you, you are not only going to get a beat down, the bullies are going to continue remind you that they gave you a beat down!
Children know that, that's why they don't hit back against bullies who outnumber them!
Also, YOU BETTER BE CAREFUL WITH THIS "you need to hit those who bully you" advice because once you train someone to lose control of their anger....................... that is hard to turn off that advice later in life!
And then what? You hit a person who pissed you off, then you'll get arrested , convicted, then you'll really be living with the professional bullies ........ in prison!
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Teach the kids to stand up for themselves using words! Teach the kids physical self-defense!
But DO NOT give them unrealistic Hollywood fiction BS cliche's like "you hit your bullies, they'll leave you alone"
Life is NOT A HOLLYWOOD MOVIE!
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PS: here's some blog posts on this topic
http://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2014/01/locker-room-manhood-and-bullying.html
http://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2010/03/dealing-with-bullies.html
