http://townhall.com/columnists/kathrynlopez/2011/12/09/marriage_deserves_our_respect/page/full/
That article was titled "Marriage Deserves Our Respect".
So.......... that just sounds so nice.......................i mean who wouldn't agree with that?
However, that article has so much idiotic nonsense that I can't let it go unchallenged!
from Lopez's article
Before he left, Nancy and David made rules, in a painfully honest conversation about human frailty. No drinking during the year of separation. Nancy would not "have phone conversations with men, or meaningful email exchanges about politics or any other subject." Nor would she be on Facebook where "the ghosts of boyfriends past" could contact her. When Nancy innocently started emailing with a man associated with a radio show about faith, she told David about it, and he asked her to end the relationship. David knew, with his "stomach clenching," that "the most intimate conversations a person has are about life and faith." And that "spiritual and emotional intimacy frequently leads to physical intimacy."
Ms Lopez thinks those restrictions help make a healthy relationship. These restrictions are NOT conducive to a healthy relationships. These BS restrictions are a conducive to an UNHEALTHY relationship that is a product of control freaks and their paranoia!
Yeah I got a facebook with plenty of females on it. So what? They're mostly former classmates and co-workers! You got a problem with that?
Yeah, I have conversations with female classmates, co-workers, and etc, etc. Some are married or in a relationship! What, I'm supposed to avoid communicating with classmates, co-workers, customers, etc just because they're a different gender? I'm not supposed to say "hi" or even smile when I see them in public? SCREW THAT!
Just because I'm greeting or talking to them, that doesn't mean I'm bringing them home for some "groupie love".
more on that from the article
What a difference little cautions make. I know married men who won't have lunch alone with women who are not their wives, who won't close the office door during the most professional of conversations. It's about not just temptation, but appearances. It's a policy with added benefits, too: "It helps to insulate me against a false accusation by a woman," Mark DeMoss, author of "The Little Red Book of Wisdom," has told me.
Is all this overkill? Or perhaps an extreme but justified backlash to a culture whose mores have gone chaotic, a society that could use a little order, and some higher expectations and standards?
Is all this overkill! DUH TIMES A MILLION! This is not to greeted with a wimpy "perhaps an extreme but justified backlash to a culture whose mores have gone chaotic"
This nonsense of "you can't have a conversation with someone with the opposite gender besides your spouse" is AN EXCUSE FOR SPOUSE ABUSERS TO BE ABUSIVE!
Some territorial/possessive punk-ass getting all verbally abusive at his/her partner having (gasp) conversations or (gasp) greeting or (gasp) meeting a co-worker/classmate/whatever of the opposite gender........ THIS verbal abuse is NOT A MINOR ISSUE!
It doesn't take long for that verbally abusive punk to go a step further and escalate into physical violence.
So this nonsense that Kathryn Lopez calling all this as "respect for marriage" is actually something that can EASILY escalate into a very violent abusive marriage!
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This is why some lady who I've met at a library, said she took me off her facebook list because her boyfriend told her to do so! I straight up warned her that her boyfriend is being too controlling and this a warning sign of worse things to come. She said she didn't care if her boyfriend is controlling. She actually said that!
Well, she can't say she wasn't warned if their relationship gets worse, which I have ZERO doubts that it will. A very classic sign that you are with a potential abuser is when he/she wants to cut you off from your friends or family! That's exactly what her boyfriend is doing by regulating her facebook list!
I haven't seen her for a year! Why am I not surprised?
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This also reminds me of a former female co-worker who had an older brother who was PARANOID over her talking to boys that he doesn't know. When she was a high school freshman, her older brother kept getting on her case when she was talking to male classmates while on campus. How dare she talk to classmates who happen to be the other gender? This has gotten so out of hand that she ended up transferring high schools just to avoid her older over-protective brother.
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Thomas Sowell has some interesting statements on this topic of talking to someone of the opposite gender.
http://townhall.com/columnists/thomassowell/2011/11/10/the_real_scandal/page/full/
Another woman who has come forward tells of Herman Cain asking her, at some conference, to see if she could locate some woman in the audience who had asked him a question, so that he could take her to dinner. This apparently struck her as suspicious.
This too reminded me of something I knew about personally. Many years ago, I was at a conference where a woman made some very insightful comments, and I took her to lunch to continue the discussion.
It so happens she was a nun. Contrary to cynics, there is more than one reason for a man to take a woman to lunch or dinner.
AMEN to that! Just having a meal and a conversation with the opposite gender doesn't mean it would lead to a night of promiscuous sex. Sometimes, a conversation is just a conversation, nothing more, even if does involves people of opposite genders.
And people like Kathryn Lopez just need to chill!
