I'm thinking "what the hell is that supposed to mean?"
But as I get older, I want to re-make the phrase.
You can live in the past once in a while but not all the time!
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1) You can't totally escape the past
I mean, you can try all you want, but you're not going to erase all your memories from the past. The only way you can do that is to get a concussion or take some drugs. But I'm sure you don't want to go that route!--
Throughout evolution, organisms had to take note of the dangers around them, otherwise, they're lunch.
As for humans, you have to take note of who's a danger towards you. Otherwise, if you keep going towards someone proven harmful to you, you're only going to take more abuse.
This is why people hold grudges. It's evolution's way of saying "You know this person is harmful, ACT LIKE YOU KNOW IT!"
Pretending that everything is OK will put you in additional danger!
After all, gazelles don't approach lions like everything is just fine! Instead, gazelles hold grudges against lions. It's called survival!
Of course we're not lions or gazelles!
But humans can only hold so much crap for so long! Hold it in for too long, you will explode!
This is why I tell my life stories on my blog. Doing so have release all that negative energy out of me, and makes it easier to move on with life!
2) You still have to adjust to the times
In other blog posts I have mentioned an uncle who kept saying negative things about facebook even though he didn't even try it.
http://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2011/05/my-debate-with-facebook-hating-uncle.html
That same uncle also complains about "there's no good music anymore" and also complain about the new cultural groups moving to his neighborhood. He also said our former neighborhood (Kalihi) is getting worse in crime (NOT TRUE AT ALL! )
Now, THAT guy is someone who spends too much time living in the past. He spends too much time being nostalgic about a glorious past that never was. He spends too much time being pessimistic about the present and the future.
In other words, that guy's mindset is stuck in time.
And the funny thing is that his mom (my grandma) is more at peace with the changes in our community and our world than my uncle is.
That also reminds me of former classmates who complain about "the kid's nowadays" and "we don't have good music anymore".
Seriously, STFU!
I deal with kids all the time. Even though some of them are nuts, I really don't think they're worse than my generation. I think my generation was worse, since there were more gang violence when I was growing compared to now! I also think the new generation is less homophobic than my generation!
And this stuff about "we don's have good music anymore"? Anyone who says that stuff is someone who is stuck in the past!
I still listen to some stuff of my childhood and teen years. But I also listen to some of the new music coming out. I love music from Bruno Mars ("Treasure" is my new favorite jam), Kesha, Flo Rida, Rihanna, fun, Macklemore, Monsters and Men, Icona Pop, Swedish House Mafia, and much more.
A few years back, I used to complain about "rock music getting more soft". No longer. For one thing, we got the new 101.5 FM on the radio playing hard-rock/heavy-metal.
Plus, times change. Harder music (meaning heavy metal and gangsta rap) just doesn't speak to the younger generation like it did mine. That's not a bad thing at all! That means the younger generation is growing up in better situations than my generation, and isn't that what we wanted for our kids all along!
3) Enjoy past memories and MAKE NEW fun memories
You don't want to be too distant from your good memories of the past. It's good to re-visit your fun times from your childhood, teen years and young adulthood.But if you catch yourself saying "life sucks now", STOP!
Find something fun to do! It doesn't have to be expensive. Take a walk around. Go to block parties when you got the time. Enjoy some of today's music. Call up some friends and do something!
And if you don't like where your life is going, start making new plans for the future.
So yeah, enjoy some old memories. Then get off your seat and Make Some New Fun Memories!
Life is too short to be miserable all the time!
