That being said, sexism and double standards make the world harder than it has to be! In too many cases, people aren't being treated as individuals because of gender stereotypes and double standards.
Anyone can write a whole book (or a set of books) about this issue.
But for now, I just I want to go over 2 different gender double standards, one for males, one for females.
PART 1) Can't Men Be Alone when there's kids around?
Let's pretend you are a grandfather.
You go to a bookstore (by yourself) to buy something for your grandkids?
Who would have a problem with that?
Well, this one woman in Arizona does!
Because .....................omg .................noooooooooooooo.................... he was a man shopping in the children's section by himself .....................................omg...............................noooooooooooooooooooooooo!)
http://www.foxnews.com/us/2012/06/05/arizona-doctor-ousted-from-barnes-and-noble-for-being-alone-in-children-section/?cmpid=cmty_fb_Arizona_doc_accepts_Barnes_%26_Noble's_apology_after_being_bounced_for_being_in_kid's_section
Dr. Omar Amin, 73, of Scottsdale, said he was shopping for books for his grandchildren at his neighborhood bookstore May 4 when he was bounced simply because he was not accompanied by a child. After initially defending its handling of the matter, the company issued a statement apologizing to Amin. Although Amin was still stinging from the incident, he told FoxNews.com he is closing the book on the matter.
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Amin said he wound up in the reading area of the children's section after he received a call on his cellphone. He said the area appeared to be empty, and he went there to avoid disturbing other customers.
“This man approached me and asked if I was in the store by myself,” Amin explained. “He said ‘You cannot stay. This is not an area where men are allowed to be by themselves.’
“I did not break any rules,” he said, adding that he was “firmly escorted out” of the store. “If that is Barnes & Noble’s policy, they should put up a sign saying men are not allowed beyond this point unless they are with children.”
Amin, who emigrated from Egypt 45 years ago and is a U.S. citizen, said he was told a female customer had complained about his presence in the children’s section, and said the employee who threw him out cited reports of alleged child molestation in other bookstores. Amin told FoxNews.com he believes his civil rights were violated.
The Arizona Republic identified the Barnes & Noble employee as Todd Voris.
In a statement released to FoxNews.com on Tuesday, Barnes & Noble vice president Mark Bottini said, “We want to apologize to Dr. Amin for a situation in which Dr. Amin was asked to leave the children’s section of our Scottsdale, Ariz., store.”
“We should not have done so,” Bottini said. “It is not our policy to ask customers to leave any section of our stores without justification. We value Dr. Amin as a customer and look forward to welcoming him in any of our stores.”
The article identified that employee as Todd Varis, who ought to be ashamed of himself! Unfortunately, that woman was not identified in the news story. I wish she was identified so she could be publicly humiliated! After all, she PUBLICLY humiliated Dr. Amin in a public area! Someone could have video-recorded the whole thing without knowing the context. Dr Amin could have been a targeted for false accusations which can lead up to vicious insults and assaults all because of a paranoid sexist sick-minded slanderous woman!
That woman claim she was just on the look-out for molesters! She thinks any male looking for children's books is sick minded (even if he's looking for gifts for grandkids......noooooo....) If there's anyone who is sick-minded, it is that paranoid sexist woman!
A female on my facebook list took a stand for all the males out there......
I saw this on HLN. felt bad for the guy. What if this happened to my husband or my bro? This employee did not use her common sense. And of course, she was only reprimanded.
AMEN - You go girl!
Yep, ladies, this kind of crap could happen to your brother, husband, father, grandfather, son, nephew, etc.
Think about that before you start getting all paranoid about a lone male in a library, bookstore, public park or anywhere else.
More stuff on anti-male paranoia
(from my earlier blog posts)
http://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2011/06/omg-male-is-coming.html
(from Free-Range Queen Lenore Skenazy)
http://freerangekids.wordpress.com/2012/06/08/help-an-old-man-is-giving-my-daughter-sea-shells/
http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748703779704576073752925629440.html
PART 2) Can't a Girl just have some Fun once in a while?
From Casey Ishitani, someone on my facebook friend's list
Thank you Casey!
Now obviously, like every job out there, there can be side effects to working at the strip club! Many quit after a few years, or even a few months!
But the same can be true about retail, food service, office work, labor jobs or any other job out there!
For some odd reason, it is seen as acceptable for people to try out bungee jumping, sky diving, rock climbing and other extreme sports at least once in their lifetime!
But omg ................ sound the alarms.............. sky is falling ............. if a young woman wants to experiment with working at a strip club!
Now, some of you reading feel like telling me "wait until you have kids, wait until you have a daughter"
Of course, fathers are biologically programmed to be nervous for their daughter's safety!
But when your offspring becames an adult, you just have to let it go! You only have a limited influence on your kids, no matter how much things you have done correctly.
The politically incorrect reality is that during young adulthood, males and females want to have fun in a sexual way! Parents will get nervous (and I probably will if I ever live to see my future offspring become young adults)! But it doesn't erase the fact that young adulthood is a time for people to do all kinds of fun and silly things with their sexual nature!
That can mean wearing certain clothing, some freak dancing (which in reality, is usually a one-song stand on the dance floor, and nothing else afterwards ................ COMMON SENSE to anyone with experience in the nightclubs), and even experimenting with "the pole"
Most people will grow out of it and move on to other things anyways.
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And plus, some claim that wearing certain things, or just being alone at night will make a woman vulnerable to a rape!
Nevermind that man are more likely to be victims of other violent crimes than women!
Plus, if a man has no proper respect for other people's boundaries, it would NOT matter what the woman is wearing, if he has the opportunity to attack!
The difference between a woman getting raped and not getting raped has NOTHING to do with her clothes or her walking alone at night. The only difference that matters is the presence of a rapist!
Like Casey Ishitani said, in this case, fix the man, not the woman!
