Friday, August 16, 2019

6 decades of statehood

(note: today is Statehood Day in Hawaii, which is officially observed on the 3rd Friday of August. The actual date when Hawaii was officially a state within the USA was August 21, 1959).

It has been 6 decades since Hawaii officially became the 50th state within the United States of America.

At the time, there was much enthusiasm and excitement. 

But since then? Nothing, nada!

There aren't going to be any celebrations of statehood this time around. There wasn't even any when the 50th anniversary came up one decade ago.

Circumstances have changed drastically since the time leading up to statehood.


In the years leading up to statehood, memories of the Pearl Harbor attacks were still fresh in people's minds!  With this type of fear, people get very clingy to who they view as a protector.  The US was seen as a protector against Japanese warplanes.  Even though Japan was no longer a threat by the time statehood came around, it was the Cold War, and there was a fear of a potential Russian takeover.  The clinginess to the US as a protector was still there.

The clinginess to the US as a protector is still here being that people are now afraid of Chinese and North Korean attacks.  I will write more about that issue later in this blog post

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Much of the world has changed since Hawaii gained statehood. 

When many people in Hawaii were lobbying for statehood, much of the world was still under the control of European empires. 

At the time, many countries of Asia has recently gained independence from the European overlords.

However, much of Africa, Caribbean and Pacific Islands were still under European control when Hawaii gained statehood.

That was all about to change in the following 2 decades. 

In the 1960s and 1970s, the majority of Africa went from being European territories to being newly independent nations.  By 1979, Rhodesia became Zimbabwe, and most of Africa was now under African control, with the exceptions being South Africa & Namibia, both controlled by descendants of European settlers instead of being directly controlled by a European country. By 1994, both countries were now under African control.

The British Empire, with holdings in every continent, was once so huge that the saying  "the sun never sets in the British Empire" wasn't much of an exaggeration. However, since 1959,  the British Empire has basically withdrawn from even much of their smaller possessions in the Caribbean & Pacific Islands, giving independence to places like Jamaica, Barbados, Trinidad & Tobago, Fiji, Kiribati, Tuvalu, Solomon Islands and more. The British also gave up possession of Hong Kong to China, though in that case, they should've given them independence instead. 

The French still have island possessions in the Caribbean (Guadeloupe, Martinique) and the Pacific (Tahiti, New Caledonia). 

That leaves the world's last superpower, the United States of America, as the main colonizer of the Caribbean (Puerto Rico, Virgin Islands) and the Pacific (Guam, Saipan, American Samoa, and of course, Hawaii). While much of the Micronesian islands are technically "independent",  the COFA treaty which is known for allowing easy migration, also gives the US ultimate control of their military & trade policies. 

With the worldwide decolonization since 1959 and the US civil rights movement and the anti-war movement occurring at the same time, there has been a change of consciousness in Hawaii, especially among the Native Hawaiians.  With other places becoming independent, many Native Hawaiians started to question why they remain under the control of a colonizing superpower that treats people with non-European ancestries as second-class citizens. They started to be more assertive in protesting the military abuse of their lands, which includes the bombing practices in Kahoolawe (which ended in 1990) and the continued live-fire training in Makua and Pohakuloa. 

The 1970s was an era of the Hawaiian Renaissance, a time of increased cultural pride inspired by the Black Power Movement in the US.  There was also the rise of the Hawaiian sovereignty movement, with different groups with different demands (ranging from a desire for a tribal government similar to the Native American reservations, to full independence). 

As with every movement, there have been radicals known to alienate the general public. In the 1990s, the most notorious figure in the Hawaiian sovereignty movement was Haunani-Kay Trask who called those in Hawaii of non-native ancestries "uninvited guests" and expressed zero sympathy for those of European ancestries who were victimized by hate crimes. Being that Native Hawaiians in Hawaii are outnumbered by Japanese, Filipino and European-American ancestries, basic math should tell you that alienating the non-native population just isn't going to give you the results that the sovereignty activists want.  You actually have to convince the non-native population that Hawaiian independence is a good idea, and you can't do that by yelling "f------ haole" or "uninvited guests" all the time.

Idiot activists allegedly aligned with social justice movements sometimes yell "it's not my job to educate you" when confronted by disagreement from those of different races. But if you actually want results, then it is your job to educate others! 

If you want better results, you have to educate others in the why and the how to get the results you want.

Some say that's not fair. Life isn't fair!  Therefore, in an unfair life, you have to be strategic in figuring out how to best get your results.

That means educating others instead of whining "it's not my job to educate you" when confronted by even the most minor disagreement.

The reason the anti-TMT movement on Mauna Kea has been getting support is that the organizers have set protocols to keep the movement not only nonviolent but also inviting towards people of all ancestries.  In general, the leaders on Mauna Kea have avoided anti-haole rants and instead emphasized the respect for the sacredness of Mauna Kea and the respect for indigenous cultures. 

(online comments have been a different story, as online forums allow people to hide behind fake names while saying the vilest things towards people who dare even express the mildest of disagreement). 

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Going back to 1959, statehood was put up for a vote. The only choices presented were to

  • remain a territory
  • become  a state
What wasn't an option on the ballot was independence. 

Statehood was seen as an improvement over being a territory, being that at least you can send senators & representatives to US Congress,  you can now vote for US president.

But the fact remains that as a state, your senators & representatives are only a few of many who decide on the taxes you pay to the empire ruling over you.

As an independent nation, our tax revenues stay here. We no longer have to send our tax revenues far away to have senators & representatives from other states argue over what to do with them. 

Many in Hawaii fear independence because that means no more federal funds. We have a drug-like dependency on federal funds. Even in the organization I work at depends on federal funds for which we pay for our resources. 

A transition towards independence would ideally require that the amount we're taxed by the federal government would instead be added to the amount we're taxed by the state government.  So (I'm just saying random numbers as an example), if we're currently taxed at 15% by the state and 8% by the feds, then in our transition towards independence, we should just be taxed 23% by the newly independent government.

This would also require lobbying of our representatives in the newly independent government to pay for the resources that were once paid for by the feds.

So if your local school is currently using federal funds for resources, then in the transition, we have to lobby the newly independent government to provide those same resources that were once provided by the feds. 

As time goes on, the independent government would adjust the tax rates and the resources provided according to the changing circumstances of our times.

But at least by then, we no have to pay for projects outside of Hawaii (ie the border wall, overseas wars, etc), so in the long run, we might even be paying less in taxes. 

With independence, we are no longer under the restrictions of the Jones Act, an outdated law from the 1920s that require only US ships go from one US port to another. With independence, any ship can from Hawaii to any US port. This means lower costs to us.

With independence, we are also no longer hostage to Trump's tariffs. Those tariffs (which allegedly "protects" US jobs) forces higher prices on imported goods on us, and they don't really protect jobs here in Hawaii.  With all due respect to workers on the continental US, "protecting" their jobs shouldn't be Hawaii's priority.  If individuals in Hawaii want to continue buying goods from the continental USA, then that's their choice which I respect. But many of us in Hawaii are dealing with our high cost of living, and if that means buying goods from China, Mexico, Philippines, etc is more cost-efficient to us, then we should be allowed to access those goods without interference. 

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The other major reason many people in Hawaii are reluctant to become independent is the fear of being unprotected by the US military. There is a fear that if we're not under the umbrella of US protection, we would be conquered by China. That is a legit concern.

However, the US involvement in foreign affairs also makes Hawaii vulnerable. There's a reason North Korea hasn't threaten to shoot nuclear missile towards Tonga or Fiji. Both are independent nations that mind their own business. However, Hawaii (as well as Guam) is a potential target for retaliation because of our imperial overlords keep getting involved in other people's business. 

Hawaii has a National Guard, so we do have some military infrastructure we can build upon. As I mentioned in previous blog posts, an independent Hawaii can collaborate with other Pacific islands in providing for our own defenses. 


Convincing Hawaii's population about how this defense plan would benefit us would be THE greatest challenge in getting them to support independence. 

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My other blog posts on the topic of Hawaii independence


"personal evolution on my thoughts on US foreign policy, patriotism, imperialism and Hawaii independence"

https://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2018/05/personal-evolution-on-my-thoughts-on-us.html



"Hawaiian independence movement: venting strategically vs venting recklessly"

http://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2018/01/hawaiian-independence-movement-venting.html



"It's time for Hawaii to declare independence (post-Trump election)"

http://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2016/11/its-time-for-hawaii-to-declare.html

"A petition to Make Hawaii Independent Again"

http://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2016/11/a-petition-to-make-hawaii-independent.html

"my letter to the newspaper: Hawaii, independence and prosperity"

http://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2016/12/my-letter-to-newspaper-hawaii.html


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News articles recently published about Hawaii's statehood


from today's newspaper

Susan Essoyan, “Hawaii Hits 6-0 as a State Without Fanfare,” Honolulu Star-Advertiser, August 16, 2019,
(note: on the print edition, the article is titled "Holiday Ho-Hum")
https://www.staradvertiser.com/2019/08/16/hawaii-news/hawaii-hits-6-0-as-a-state-without-fanfare/?HSA=94a8ca1c9823459e5ff9d36fe56b11051c548dcf


A quote from former Hawaii governor John Waihee
In an interview, Waihee remembered when news of statehood arrived in his hometown on the Hamakua coast of Hawaii island, when he was 13.
“What I remember most about statehood was the celebration,” Waihee said. “The people literally celebrated. I remember taking off to go walk around Honokaa town and listen to the cars driving up and down the street, honking and celebrating.”
“Nobody said we were celebrating because we are now part of the United States — we were already part of the United States,” he said. “What we didn’t have was equal rights like the rest of the country.”
Hawaii residents couldn’t elect their own governor and had just a nonvoting delegate in Congress, not their own senator or representatives. Statehood changed that and many other aspects of life in the islands 
later in the article, more from Waihee
Waihee said another factor also puts a damper on the subject of statehood.
“There are some people who claim that the arrival of statehood for Hawaii somehow justified the illegal overthrow of Queen Lili‘uokalani,” he said. “I think that’s kind of revisionist bunk.”
“People like my father and other Native Hawaiians worked very, very hard supporting the concept of statehood,” Waihee said. “If they believed for a second that it had anything to do with the overthrow, they would not have been supporting it. What they believed was we would finally have a better deal.”

The article mentioned that there is only one celebration of statehood publicly scheduled for today, this hosted by Eric Ryan, a local right-wing conservative.


A group of Republicans, disappointed that they could not find any official events, have booked space at Bubba Gump Shrimp Co. at Ala Moana for a reservation- only dinner for about 60 people in honor of Admission Day.
“We’re a state now for 60 years, and it seems like we ought to set off some fireworks or something,” said Eric Ryan, president of the Hawaii Republican Assembly and an organizer of the event. “It’s kind of a shame that everyone’s hiding under their desks. … We are still very proud to be American and proud to be Hawaiians in the statehood sense. There’s no real turning back, so we might as well enjoy it.”
That last sentence reminds me of the controversial statement by retired abusive basketball coach Bobby Knight who claimed that if you're being raped, you might as well enjoy it.

More from Eric Ryan

Ironically, Ryan, who is is staging the Bubba Gump celebration, says his mother was one of the 6% who voted against statehood in 1959. “She didn’t want Hawaii to be hooked on federal money,” he said.

Ryan's mother was correct, Hawaii has become too hooked on federal money since statehood.   If Eric Ryan was serious about fiscal conservatism, he would advocate for Hawaii's independence as a way for Hawaii to become more fiscally conservative.  The only way to end the addiction to federal funds is to cut off the supply. 


Also from the article, comments from U.H. dean and pro-independence activist Jonathan Osorio. 


Jonathan Osorio, dean of the Hawai‘inuiakea School of Hawaiian Knowledge at the University of Hawaii at Manoa, harks back to the overthrow to underscore why statehood is not celebrated today as it was in 1959. 
“The most important change from then has been the issue of the Hawaiian sovereignty movement that understands the fraudulence of statehood and discusses it openly — and it’s not just some fringe movement,” he said. 
“It starts with the intimidation and the takeover of a nation state that was fully recognized by all the other nation states in the world,” Osorio said. “It then moves on into the way in which Hawaii was taken off the list of non self-governing territories in 1958, which allowed the United States then to present Hawaii as eligible for statehood when in fact Hawaii was eligible for decolonization.” 
“There is no way you can have a ‘celebration’ of this without then running into a good deal of pushback,” he said. “It’s really kind of similar to the way people think about Columbus in the 21st century.”
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An article from yesterday's newspaper.


Kioni Dudley, Leon Siu, and Poka Laenui, “Statehood Questioned at Hawaii’s 60th,” Honolulu Star-Advertiser, August 15, 2019,
 https://www.staradvertiser.com/2019/08/15/editorial/island-voices/statehood-questioned-at-hawaiis-60th/.



In 1945, the United States, as a founding member of the United Nations, accepted all U.N. Charter obligations. As a nation with Territories, under Article 73 of the Charter, it took on, “as a sacred trust, the obligation to … develop self-government” for the descendants of the nations it had occupied. The U.S. did this for some territories. But in Hawaii, it did just the opposite. Our people achieving “the full measure of self-governance” was never mentioned. The statehood vote offered only movement from a U.S. Territory to a U.S. state. Total absorption rather than required liberation.
The ballot wording was bogus. U.N. Resolution 742 (VIII), adopted in 1953, required that plebiscites offer “freedom of choosing between several possibilities, including independence.” The wording of the statehood ballot question was: “Shall Hawaii immediately be admitted into the Union as a State?”
The only possible answers were “Yes” and “No.” No option for independence was provided. The vote did not comply with the Charter or Resolution 742.

more from the article

The official report states that 94% of voters supported statehood, but the facts are quite different. The 94% only counts the “yes” and “no” votes cast. 
When blank ballots are included, only 77% of those who voted actually voted for statehood. But even more shocking is that, in the most important election ever held in Hawaii, only 35% of those of eligible age actually registered and turned up at the polls. Sixty-five percent “voted with their feet” against statehood by staying home. When the blank votes and “votes with their feet” are factored in, only 27% of eligible voters cast a “yes” vote, far below the 50% required to win. 
America knew that the UN would soon pass its “Declaration on the Granting of Independence to Colonized Countries and Peoples.” Great pressure would mount to liberate Hawaii. The statehood vote was a sham to quickly secure United Nations approval for U.S. permanent retention of Hawaii — just 12 months and two days before the Declaration was passed.

Monday, August 12, 2019

Compromise on Mauna Kea

Back in 2015, I did write some brief blog posts on the issue of Mauna Kea and the Thirty Meter Telescope (TMT).


(This one on how the TMT organization failed to realize the importance of social media until the protests against them went viral)



This summer, the TMT issue was back in the headlines as the state scheduled the beginning of the construction this summer. However, activists have blocked the access road, with a protest that has gone viral worldwide.  At issue is development on a site sacred to Native Hawaiians, which got the protesters (who prefer to be called "protectors" or Kia’i) support from indigenous activists worldwide.

However, as with all ethnic groups, not everyone has the same opinion.  One example was Paul Coleman, a Native Hawaiian astronomer who worked in the telescopes already on Mauna Kea. Coleman passed away last year. 

Meanwhile, Kauionalani Onodera, a Native Hawaiian who works as an engineer on the telescopes on Haleakala wrote an editorial on Honolulu Civil Beat


Throughout the recent protests, staff working on the telescopes already on Mauna Kea were blocked from their worksite. However, this past week, there was a compromise in which the Kia’i would allow those workers access to their current worksite.

But the protests against TMT isn't going to go away. It was already a public relations disaster when governor David Ige called a State of Emergency proclamation in response to the nonviolent protest with allegations of alcohol & drug use on the protest site. In this age of "going viral", there was no recorded evidence of alcohol or drug use. In fact, there is a code of conduct enforced by the Kia’i which prohibits alcohol & drug use. In fact, even profanity is strongly discouraged. 


TMT opponents also said they have been enforcing rules that include no alcohol, drugs or smoking and no swearing in the puuhonua, and that there has been no loss of order.
“This is a puuhonua, so you have to malama — take care of — the people,” Cabanilla said. “Aloha lives in this place.”

 Taking aggressive actions against the protest will also become a major public relations disaster. Already, the images of kupuna (elderly) activists being arrested in the early days of the protest enraged many! 

It's time for governor David Ige to cut his losses. Compromise! The Kia’i already compromised by allowing staff of the existing telescopes to access their worksites. Ige should do his part by calling off the TMT project.  It's not worth it!  It's too divisive! To continue with the project is just a waste of time!


My position is this: allow the already operating telescopes to continue operating (except for the ones already in the process of being decommissioned), but no more!   The days of adding new telescopes are over! Just use the ones we already have!

Sunday, July 14, 2019

YMCA renovation meeting

On July 11, 2019, there was a meeting at the Nuuanu YMCA about plans to renovate the facility. 

I am a long-time user of the Nuuanu YMCA. It is in a convenient location for which I use the cardio and weight equipment. I also LOVE the lanai (Commons Area) with tables where I could sit down, chill & read before & after I do my exercises.  It is the lanai that is the reason why I prefer Nuuanu YMCA over other fitness facilities that don't have anything like it!


However, I do recognize changes needed to be made to the facility. 


The current facility for the Nuuanu YMCA was built in 1963. This was decades before the ADA (Americans with Disabilities Act) became law.

To enter the facility, you have to walk up some stairs. Yes, there's a wheelchair lift (which goes over the stairways), but it's still inaccessible for people who rely on walkers as well as parents who use strollers.  Ramps would be way more convenient than wheelchair lifts. 

After you enter, if you want to use the locker room, you now have to walk down more stairs. Again, inaccessible for those with wheelchairs, walkers and more.

And then to use the gym or weight-training area, guess what? More stairs.

So most definitely, the facility could use some serious renovations.

But there are reasons to renovate besides ADA issues.

The facility has 2 locker rooms for men (one "Aloha locker room" for males who want to pay more for long-term lockers, and another one for males who want to pay less but will have to clear their lockers before the facility closes for the day) and 1 locker room for women.

So, 2 locker rooms for men, 1 locker room for women. Obviously a sexist facility. This issue troubled me, even though I'm in the privileged gender! 

Yes, I know it's the YMCA (Young Men's Christian Association) with the word "men" in the name, but let's be real, it's currently being used by people who are not young, not men, and not Christian.

The renovation plans for the locker rooms would be 1 for males, 1 for females, and 1 gender-neutral locker rooms. The gender-neutral locker rooms are intended for situations like parents with opposite-gender children (mother & son, father & daughter), but could possibly be used by gender non-binary people too. There are proposed privacy stalls in those locker rooms. 


There are more plans but the ADA accessibility and the lockers are the main ones. Some parts of the plans haven't been finalized yet. Renovations are scheduled to start in the second half of 2020 and to continue until early 2022. 

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The 7/11/2019 meeting started out with the administration talking about the plans to renovate and how they're going to fund it.

Then it was Q&A time, usually the most entertaining part of any meetings.

The first person from the audience to talk was former Hawaii governor Neil Abercrombie. He's a long-time user of the Nuuanu YMCA.  He's not an administrator nor an employee of the YMCA.  However, the way he acted shows that he still hasn't adjusted well to life after political office. 

He kept ranting on and on as if there was nobody else in the audience who was waiting for their turn to speak. When others had their turn to talk, Neil Abercrombie was interrupting them. YMCA admin reminded him that they didn't interrupt him and that he should show the same courtesy. He accused them of lecturing him. It's this kind of nonsense that led him to lose to David Ige back in 2014. Even though Ige isn't known to be the best communicator, at least he knows when to shut up and give others the chance to talk!

If you're going to go to community meetings, you should have the common courtesy and act as if you have limited time to say your piece. Other people there have their concerns too, and they're not going to wait hours until you're done.  

You may want to vent about 14 different things related to what the meeting is about, but remember, you're not the only one at the meeting. It's best to just narrow down what you want to express to 1 or 2 major points and leave it at that.  Those 1 or 2 major points could focus on what nobody else has mentioned yet, or to back up or object to a major point already expressed. 

One woman left early because she had to pick up her children.  Others might have to leave early for other obligations. They lost an opportunity to vent their concerns because one fool wants to monopolize the Q&A session. 

As for me, when it was my turn to talk, I praised the plans to make the YMCA ADA accessible, to make locker rooms more gender-equal and then I express my concerns about the plans for the Commons Area (also called "the lanai"). This is the area with tables were people can sit, eat, wait or chill. There were plans to make the Commons indoor with AC. I express that I prefer the Commons Area to have fresh air like it is now.

That's it! That's all I said. I had other ideas in my brain, but because I have this thing called "common courtesy", I limited what I expressed so that others have time to express their concerns.


Other concerns expressed by others include

  • proposals to remove the racquetball courts (obviously a sore point for those who use it)
  • better ventilation for the locker rooms
  • the costs and will it increase membership fees
  • are we able to use other YMCA location when the Nuuanu YMCA is being renovated? (yes)
  • why change anything at all? (the guy who expressed that said that climbing those stairs don't bother him.  He doesn't get that one day he could become disabled and by then, he would be grateful for ADA accessible facilities)
  • "why wasn't the members asked for feedback before you come up with renovation plans?"  (actually, I completed MULTIPLE online surveys offered by the YMCA over the years, plus you could always write them a letter if you don't have email.  All those surveys sure inspired the administration to start renovation plans). 


With any project, you can't satisfy everyone. Who knows, maybe when the renovations are over, I might blog about a flaw in the new facilities.  But I do trust the YMCA to properly handle the renovations especially when it comes to ADA compliance. 

I look forward to it :) 


Thursday, July 11, 2019

Still Resisting Peer Pressure to Drink Alcohol

At a very young age, I decided that I will never drink alcoholic beverages or take those other drugs (ie cocaine, heroin, meth, tobacco, marijuana).

I have stayed true to those promises!

However, no matter how many times I posted on facebook about my non-drinking stance, no matter that I made a YouTube video against drinking, some idiots still insist I join them in getting drunk!

This happened during a reunion the other week! 

This was what I wrote in the reunion blog post
https://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2019/06/my-20th-year-reunion.html


I DO NOT drink alcoholic beverages and I take that stance very seriously. However, not every classmate got the memo!

During the event, others did ask me to drink alcohol beverages. I pulled 2 individuals on the side and told in a serious tone DON'T ever ask me about drinking alcoholic beverages ever again. They apologized. Because they sincerely apologized, their names won't be mentioned.

However, Patsaya Mounthongdy is a different story.

Me & Patsaya do have some similarities in that were both eccentric personalities who are the "lifes of the party".

The difference is that Patsaya has not matured since high school. He is an extremely extroverted person who still thinks everything is a joke.   He doesn't believe in personal boundaries. He still doesn't understand that sometimes, he needs to tone down his loud personality. He doesn't understand when to stop talking and when to leave the issue alone. He doesn't understand that as an adult, he needs to develop an introverted, reflective side too!  

After the rooftop was being cleared, I met up with Patsaya and told him that he needs to stop asking me to drink alcoholic beverages and that I take that issue very seriously.  He did apologize, but then a few minutes later, he said out loud that I was ruining the vibe of the night. I told him politely to drop the topic already.  This continued while we were in the elevator. The Other Guy #1 also told Patsaya to drop the issue. Patsaya still wouldn't shut up. Then I yelled at him "SHUT THE ____ UP" and pointed a pepper spray at his face. I pointed it in a self-defense stance but luckily didn't have to spray it! 

The Other Guy #1 continued to diffuse the situation. 

Patsaya then said "this is the last time I'm ever going to a reunion" 

Good! That's what I call "addition by subtraction". The great ambiance of a reunion is added when we subtract jerks (like Patsaya) who make other people nervous to come to the reunion!

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Yes, I have more to say about Patsaya Mounthongdy

He was already an extremely extroverted person and a class clown in high school. However, I never had a problem with him in high school. 

However, at the reunion, he was obviously drunk. 

Alcohol and an extremely extroverted personality are an extremely bad combination.  

It's bad enough he wanted me to drink alcohol, even worse when I told him to stop asking me to drink, he disrespected me and acted manipulative!


You can't reason with somebody like that! 

I know from past experience with bullies that if I just walked away, he would've followed me and continued to act like a jerk! 

This was why I pulled out my pepper spray and told him to SHUT THE F___ UP!

That's the only style of communication that he takes seriously. 

If he is disrespectful towards me, a man about a few inches taller, imagine how he is to women when he is drunk. I wouldn't be surprised if there's a #metoo story involving that guy!

Being that the #metoo movement exposed a lot of shady characters, it is IMPORTANT that I mentioned the person's real name, which as I mentioned earlier, is Patsaya Mounthongdy.


Those who had earlier run-ins with that guy would be inspired to expose even more about who he is, maybe even press charges or file lawsuits. It would also give a warning to whoever might have to interact with him in the future. 

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Also at the reunion is another chump Alan Vuong (owner of Salon Blanc) who followed Patsaya with this "ha ha, Pablo you don't drink", but he backed down when I got into his face and told him that I take this issue very seriously. Alan Vuong, as a CEO of an award-winning small business, is supposed to be a leader in the community, but that night just showed that he's just another follower who gives into to peer pressure, just like back in high school when his reputation was that of a wannabe gangsta.  He thinks being hardcore is about getting drunk, but really,  he's just too soft to resist peer pressure when it comes to alcohol! Alan was gone before I pointed a pepper spray at Patsaya. At least give Alan credit, he knows to back down instead of pushing the issue like Patsaya.

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The incident inspired me to post this on facebook. 


When people ask me to drink alcohol, and I tell them "I don't drink", some are so stupid to actually believe they can convince to me to drink! Who the hell do these people think they are talking to! I take my anti-alcohol stance seriously and anybody who tries to convince me otherwise will be deleted from my friend's list and publicly shamed on my blog posts! This is NOT a joke and you have been warned!



When people ask me to drink alcohol, and I tell them "I don't drink", some are so stupid to actually believe they can convince to me to drink! Who the hell do these people think they are talking to! I take my anti-alcohol stance seriously and anybody who tries to convince me otherwise will be deleted from my friend's list and publicly shamed on my blog posts! This is NOT a joke and you have been warned!




Now, I actually got tons of positive responses to my post!


I'm not going to show the names of people who wrote them, but I will definitely show the messages





Response #1
  • Right on Pablo 👍
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 Response #2
  •  Yeah Pablo!
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Response #3
  •  Much respect, bro. I stopped drinking, but I'm grateful that no one tries to peer pressure me. Stand your ground and they should respect your decision. People can have fun and be fun without alcohol too. Aloha, my braddah.
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    Response #4
    •  As a non drinker myself, I deal with this too. While my true friends accept and support my choice not to drink, every now and then someone new joins the group and almost seems to make it a challenge to “break me.” You best believe they aren’t invited back to the next get together!
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      Response #5

      •  Respect ♥️
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        Response #6
        • Booze is poison.
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        Response #7
        • I drink occasionally, Pablo, but definitely agree that you don't need friends who disrespect you. That's what "friends" are doing if you let them know and they're still trying to push you. 🤷
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          Response # 8
          • I got respect on your decision and yes no one should force you to it.

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          A few days later, I saw this wonderful meme!  




          SUMMER DRINKING TIP: When someone says they're not drinking/refusing the alcoholic beverage you're offering DO NOT ASK WHY. Just offer a non-alcoholic option instead and move on cuz whatever the reason it it's always none of your business



          SUMMER DRINKING TIP: When someone says they're not drinking/refusing the alcoholic beverage you're offering DO NOT ASK WHY.
          Just offer a non-alcoholic option instead and move on cuz whatever the reason it it's always none of your business



          Or better yet, people should STOP offering an alcoholic beverage!

          If someone wants a beer, they could go get it themselves. 

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          Now, let's go over some recent articles about the negative sides of drinking alcoholic beverages. 


          This one on the serious health side effects of getting drunk.



          Sirin Kale, “Binge-Drink Britain: How One Weekend Bender Can Ruin Your Life,” Guardian, May 30, 2018, 
          https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/may/30/one-weekend-bender-can-ruin-your-life-pancreatitis


          “You can get pancreatitis after a single binge,” says Dr Sarah Jarvis of the campaign group Drinkaware, although she explains it’s more common to develop it after repeated binges.

          The pancreas, a small organ behind the stomach, plays an essential role in digestion. Pancreatitis occurs when it becomes inflamed, usually as a result of too much alcohol. Individual binges can lead to flare-ups of acute pancreatitis, from which the patient can recover after a few weeks. But continued drinking can turn this into chronic pancreatitis, meaning that the pancreas can be permanently damaged, and may fail entirely. Between 70% and 80% of cases of chronic pancreatitis are caused by alcohol abuse, according to the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (Nice).

          After the sudden death of the Swedish DJ Avicii, pancreatitis is becoming better known. He had been afflicted by the condition after abusing alcohol during exhausting world tours and, after his death, his family issued a statement saying “he could not go on any longer”. His death has forced us to pay attention to a condition we would perhaps rather ignore.

          skipped paragraphs

           “My friends are drunk all the time and they’ll be in the club buying me drinks,” Lawrence says. “They don’t realise the severity of my illness because they don’t have to live with it.” Charles gets angry when she sees people being peer-pressured. “People will taunt someone who isn’t drinking,” she says. “It’s like: you’re a weirdo if you don’t drink.” 


          This is why I take peer pressure on this issue VERY SERIOUSLY!  

          This peer pressure isn't light-hearted fun, this peer pressure has VERY DANGEROUS CONSEQUENCES!

          That's why I tell people to don't ever peer pressure on this issue ever again. 

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          another article from The Guardian, this one by Adrian Chiles, a former alcoholic who is cutting back on his alcohol consumption.

          Adrian Chiles, “What Happened Next? ‘Drinking for the sake of drinking. It’s Madness’: How Adrian Chiles Cut Back On Booze,” Guardian, December 13, 2018, 
          https://www.theguardian.com/global/2018/dec/13/what-happened-next-drinking-for-the-sake-of-drinking-its-madness-how-adrian-chiles-cut-back-on-booze

          I have many hunches about things, which usually turn out to be wrong. But this year my hunch turned out to be right – that almost all coverage of alcohol issues failed to get to the big problem. Always the focus was on the extreme cases, the Pernod-in-the-morning type drinkers, as my friend Frank Skinner referred to himself. So the rest of us would look at the classic “alcoholic” waking up in a shop doorway or emergency ward and say to ourselves: “Oh, that’s not me, therefore I have no problem, I am fine.” Well, I don’t think we are fine. It turns out that there are many drinkers like me, quietly putting it away without, superficially, doing any great harm, when, actually, we could do ourselves some real good by drinking significantly less.
          One strand of twisted thinking I often hear is: “So what if I die a bit younger? Who wants to live for ever anyway?” As one doctor put it to me, it’s not a choice between living a good, long life or a good, slightly shorter life; it’s about making your declining years as bearable as possible. And drinking too much before you get there isn’t going to help you.



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          Now, people are putting on events that provide alternatives to getting drunk

          This article starts off about an alcohol-free bar in St. Louis, Missouri, a city known to be the headquarters of a large beer company. 


          https://abcnews.go.com/Health/alcohol-heavy-culture-people-booze-free-spaces/story
          Pop’s Blue Moon bar, a fixture of this beer-loving city since 1908, has joined an emerging national trend: alcohol-free spaces offering social connections without peer pressure to drink, hangovers or DUIs. From boozeless bars to substance-free zones at concerts marked by yellow balloons, sober spots are popping up across the nation in reaction to America’s alcohol-soaked culture, promising a healthy alternative for people in recovery and those who simply want to drink less.
          “We evolved as social creatures. This is a good trend if you want the experience of companionship and social culture but don’t want the negatives,” said William Stoops, a University of Kentucky professor who studies drug and alcohol addiction. “It can help people make better choices.”

          skipped paragraphs, to an alcohol-free bar in Austin, Texas

          Chris Marshall, who founded Sans Bar in Austin, Texas, in 2015, got sober in 2007 and was working as a counselor when a client shared how difficult it was to navigate the social world without alcohol. The client’s relapse and subsequent death was his call to action.


          skipped paragraphs, this one on  how alcohol-free events are helping the LGBT community which once found refuge only in bars.

          In Washington, D.C., members of a growing sober LGBTQ community organize dry reading groups and rafting trips and alcohol-free nights out instead of hitting gay bars. Tom Hill, a vice president at the National Council for Behavioral Health, who is gay and in recovery, said those activities create a “sense of socialization and camaraderie to replace what they had.”

          Nationally, sober raves such as Daybreaker morning dance parties have caught on, fueled only by dancing.
           skipped paragraphs, now back to Saint Louis

          At Pop’s Blue Moon, Jaclynn Rowell, who reads tarot cards for customers, said the health benefits of no-booze nights are a big draw. And many are happy to avoid awkward questions about religion, pregnancy and sobriety that can arise at regular bars when someone asks why they’re not drinking.

          Stephanie Keil, 39, spent two hours with friends there on a recent Saturday night and said she’d love to see more boozeless bars.

          and the article also mentioned those side effects to an alcohol-filled life


          Research links excessive alcohol use to fatty liver, cirrhosis and cancers of the breast, liver, colon, mouth and throat as well as heart disease, high blood pressure, stroke, dementia, anxiety and depression. Nearly half of murders involve alcohol, according to studies. Drinking kills about 88,000 people annually, according to the Institute for Health Metrics and Evaluation at the University of Washington. Such diseases and social ills cost the nation an estimated $249 billion a year. 


          So yes, I made the right decision when I was a kid to never drink alcoholic beverages. I am proud that I have kept my promise to myself.

          And I hope you can join me in leading an alcohol-free life! 
          BONUS:

          My YouTube video from 2014
          https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f1wRPNB3N4I




          "I don't need alcohol (and neither do you)"


          Monday, July 08, 2019

          Emotional Sunday

          (note: this post is not about yesterday, but about the previous Sunday).

          So much emotions in the last few weeks.

          Last month marks 2 decades since graduating high school.

          There was nostalgic feeling about the fun times, and of course, we had a 20th year reunion to look forward (which I wrote about it at
          https://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2019/06/my-20th-year-reunion.html )

          However, there were other feelings too!

          The high school years were also years in which I have become distanced from my parents, mostly due to their decision to buy a house in the other side of the island a few months before high school started. 

          My grandmother stayed in the same community I grew up, and I used her address in order to attend the same high school as my friends.  I would've preferred to stay in my grandma's place 24-7-365, but it wasn't to be

          However, I had to spend time commuting between my parent's home in the other side of the island to my high school. The stress of the commute, plus people knowing that I wasn't a full-time resident of my grandmother's address (and therefore not eligible to remain in the high school of my peers) took a toll!

          I wanted my parents to abandon their home on the other side of the island and return to live in my high school district. Little did I know, my parents signed a 30-year mortgage, a contract that locked them into one location for that long! 

          Add to that, most relatives defended my parent's decision. Cause a strain on family relations? That's an understatement.  It caused me to have a severe high level of hatred towards most of my family!  It inspired a lot of suicidal & homicidal thoughts in my mind!

          Add to that, my father was an alcohol drinker and could be very cruel when drunk, and he was set in his ways.

          I used to look up to him as a child,  used to have a lot of loving memories with him during my childhood years, but his decision to move house during my adolescence, plus his alcoholic ways caused a major rift! 

          In my senior year, my mother finally listened to my concerns instead of just brushing it off as "just another teenage complaint". Communicating my grievances to my father? He just wasn't ready to listen. So all my communication was with my mother.  It was only after I lost control of my emotions when communicating with my mother and punched a few pillows did my mother finally decided to ask my grandmother to stay in her home 24-7-365.  This was when 4th quarter of my senior already started. That's 15 out of 16 quarters done! That's as if a fire already burned 15 floors and approached the final 16th floor! 

          So yeah, I finally moved to my grandmother's home (which I requested 1st quarter, but only got when 15/16 quarters already done). Yay, I got what I wanted ........... when it was pretty much too little too late.

          Having 15/16 quarters burned through isn't something that is easy to get over! That's 15/16 quarters that are filled with missed opportunities due to commuting and the fear of people finding that I wasn't a full-time resident of the school district.  If it was only 3 quarters that was burned, it wouldn't be so major. But it was 15 out of 16 quarters burned! I CAN'T GET THAT TIME BACK! You can't make up for 15 quarters within just one quarter! 

          These missed opportunities (school activities, more time to expand my social circle) caused a resentment in me that could never die!

          College and career success could NEVER fill the emotional hole caused by having those 15 out of 16 quarters of high school burned! 

          I've been to multiple psychologists/therapists/etc. Couldn't stick to one due to changing health insurance or that the ones I used while in college were only available if I was attending college.

          Back in 2014, my parents and I met with yet another psychologist. I was lucky in that I was a graduate student at UH-Manoa at the time, so I was eligible for free services.  I was able to discuss a lot of grievances with my parents in front of a trained professional. It did wonders. My father was much less defensive then than he was when growing up. However, when his next Mexico trip came up, he said this therapy session was his last one.  He might've been burned out by all those sessions. 

          Fast forward 5 years to 2019. I appreciated my parent's honesty in the 2014 sessions but there were still things I wanted to clear up! Plus, being that 2019 was the 2-decade anniversary since high school, all the anger about the missed opportunities from the 15/16 quarters burned came right back!

          I spent months writing a letter of my grievances that I didn't have time to share in the 2014 sessions. I kept delaying sending ... wait until after Mother's Day, wait until after Father's Day, wait until after the 20th year reunion.........

          ..... actually, I mailed that letter to my parents the week leading up to the 20th-year Reunion.  

          Sending that letter was a major relief in that I let out all my emotions.

          Now I had to wait for a response. 

          That came the Sunday (the day after the reunion).

          The reunion came with mixed emotions. I was happy to see a lot of people, however, after the event, I had a conflict with a drunk who hasn't grown up since high school. Not just any conflict, but one in which I told him to "SHUT THE ----- UP" while holding a pepper spray in his direction! 
          (read part 3 of https://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2019/06/my-20th-year-reunion.html)

          My dad actually scheduled breakfast for that Sunday, the day after the reunion. The thing was, when my father scheduled that breakfast, he called a few days earlier when he was on another island. When he called, he was unaware that I sent that letter to my parents.  But now he was aware!

          So on that Sunday, me & dad discussed a lot of things, mostly about our misunderstandings about each other. He said he didn't know some of the things I was going through and I admit I could've explained it better back then. He talked about his situation, I talked about mines. This was the first time I ever saw my father cried!  He described how he tried to be a devoted father, but also he made some mistakes. He then told me that back when I was a teenager, he didn't understand my grievances, but now he understood.  I broke down too, saying that I used to look up to him as a child, but that many things have gotten in the way over the years! We then hugged, as my father was ready to go home!

          I still get emotional thinking about all this! It will take time to process it all!