In a recent blog post, I mentioned this
https://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2021/02/journalist-and-friends-who-insist-on.html
I also had "friends" who are on the opposite extreme. These "friends" want me to be silent about traumas at all times. They tell me "let it go, don't let it get to you" . Yet, when I point out their hypocrisies, they act all hurt and called my other friends acting all traumatized because I pointed out these hypocrisies.
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Actually, I did blog about that one "friend" who advised me to not blog about my past traumas . At the time, I mentioned his name. He then called my other friends in emotional distress, which is more proof of his hypocrisy. I took down that blog post in hopes we could reunite in the 20th year reunion. He didn't show up!
But he did write blog posts expressing emotional distress about my blog posts expressing disagreement with him (nevermind that he advised me not to blog about my traumas) though he didn't mention my name. I took the high road by not adding fuel to the fire. But if he does respond to this, I can guarantee more fuel!
The funniest part of that person's blog was his blog post called "The Traumatized Chronicles " in which he posted pictures of vacations, friends, and reunions to somehow prove that he wasn't traumatized when I blogged about his hypocrisies! Even funnier was some of those photos were taken BEFORE I traumatized him with my expose of his hypocrisies.
In other words, if you were traumatized in 2013, photos from a 2009 reunion and a 2008 vacation with friends in no way disproved that you were traumatized in 2013.
And you can post all kinds of party pics, take fantastic vacations all over the world & win awards from the years after, that doesn't disprove you were traumatized in 2013!
I extended an olive branch by inviting that person to a reunion in 2014 & 2019 ---- he didn't show up to either one! If he did, I would've said "hi", shake his hand and we could've ended the whole beef right there!
In 2024, he'll be invited again, that's if the pandemic is over! We can shake hands, talk story and take some cool party pics. It may not erase past traumas, but it will finally show that he can practice what he preaches and prove that he can truly "let it go"!
