His excuse? He was angry because he can't get laid.
Beauchamp, Zack. “Incel, the misogynist ideology that inspired the deadly Toronto attack, explained.” Vox. April 25, 2018. https://www.vox.com/world/2018/4/25/17277496/incel-toronto-attack-alek-minassian
Alek Minassian, the man who killed 10 people by driving a van down a busy street in Toronto on Monday, is a terrorist.We know this because he told us so. On Tuesday afternoon, Facebook confirmed the authenticity of a post in his name, in which he pledged allegiance to something called the “Incel Rebellion.” This is not an organized militant group but rather an ideal developed by the so-called “incel” movement — an online community of men united by their inability to convince women to have sex with them. (“Incel” stands for “involuntarily celibate.”)Some self-identified incels, as they call themselves, have developed an elaborate sociopolitical explanation for their sexual failures, one that centers on the idea that women are shallow, vicious, and only attracted to hyper-muscular men. They see this as a profound injustice against men like them, who suffer an inherent genetic disadvantage through no fault of their own. A small radical fringe believes that violence, especially against women, is an appropriate response — that an “Incel Rebellion” or “Beta [Male] Uprising” will eventually overturn the sexual status quo.
That wasn't the first time someone used the "I'm angry because I can't get laid" as an excuse to kill innocent people.
Back in 2009, George Sodini shot & killed a few women at a gym in Pittsburgh! All because he was angry that women were rejecting him!
Toby Harnden, “George Sodini's blog tells of years of rejection by women before gym shooting,” Telegraph, August 5, 2009, https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/northamerica/usa/5978615/George-Sodinis-blog-tells-of-years-of-rejection-by-women-before-gym-shooting.html
Candiott, Susan. “Police: Gym shooter 'had a lot of hatred' for women, society.” CNN. August 5, 2009. http://www.cnn.com/2009/CRIME/08/05/pennsylvania.gym.shooting/
In the note found at the scene in Sodini's gym bag, he complains he had never spent a weekend with a woman, never vacationed with a woman and never lived with a woman, and that he had had limited sexual experiences, Moffatt said.He makes similar complaints in his online blog, which also documents his growing rage at women for rejecting him and at the world he felt had abandoned him.
True story, the same year, I was talking to a former classmate who was an incel that expressed sympathy with George Sodini. I was so shocked to hear it that words couldn't even come out, and even if I did, it was no use reasoning with someone that insane!
That incel ex-classmate always sound so desperate about not getting laid. He doesn't seem to realize his desperate attitude and his inability to control his insecurities is creating his own problems! Like, stop being so damn insecure, stop being so desperate, and just focus on your career, focus on your health, focus on becoming a mature confident adult instead of worrying about getting laid!
Like really, you can live without getting laid or even a date. But you can't survive without food or water. Priorities, priorities.
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Many incels resort to using porn, going to strip clubs and hostess clubs.
As mentioned in previous blog posts, I've done some of things when I was younger, but I now view them all as a waste of time & money!
"Time, not just money, down the drain" https://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2017/02/time-not-just-money-down-drain.html
"Money down the drain" http://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2015/01/money-down-drain.html
As I also mentioned in those blog posts, I told that ex-classmate that he would just get more satisfaction if he would just go to a nightclub and dance with women for free.
And you don't even have to look like Channing Tatum, Tyrese Gibson, Mario Lopez or Dwayne Johnson to get women freak dancing with you at a nightclub.
You don't even have to have the fancy dance moves of Chris Brown or Bobby Brown. You don't even have to have their ex-teen pop idol turned bad boy persona either!
You just have to get on the dance floor and enjoy yourself.
On some nights, men will outnumber women at the club. Other nights, more couples will show up and not that many singles. In those cases, you just can't take it personal if you don't get a woman freak dancing with you! Just enjoy the music!
But on nights where there's more single women around, your luck will increase. You don't have to look like the stereotypical jock! You won't even have to put any effort to pursue women, all you have to do is get on the dance floor, and women will come to you!
I've seen short men, nerdy men, disabled men, fat men, skinny men, all kinds of men having women freak dance with them.
I've been able to freak dance with women of various shapes, sizes, colors, and ethnicities. I've done it all.
I mention this not to claim I'm some superstud! ! Any man who've been clubbing for over a decade would've already had experiences of freak dancing with women of various shapes, sizes, colors, and ethnicities.
You don't need to go clubbing every weekend, you don't want to overdo it! 5 times a year is enough for me!
So if you've been clubbing for about a decade, and you go 5 times a year, and 3 out of 5 times (my average), you have at least one woman dancing with you, that means have already freak danced with at least 30 women!
And the beauty of it is, as I mentioned earlier, you don't have to look like a jock to do all of that! You don't have to work hard to pursue! All you have to do is just get on the dance floor and enjoy the music!
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Notice that I'm not even talking getting dates or even having sex with them! I'm just talking about dancing with them at the club!
Just dancing with them will let you know you do have some sex appeal.
The incels could just come to the nightclub with good spirits, they would be getting freak dances for real!
And with freak dances, you don't have to worry about unplanned pregnancies or STDs. A freak dance just brings you joy without commitment and without the perils of sexual intercourse.
And those freak dances will give a memory bank of experiences that you can rely on to give you nostalgic feelings.
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And No, you don't need alcohol (aka "liquid courage" aka False Courage) to develop the confidence to get on the dance floor and get women dancing with you! Just bring a zest for fun music & fun times!
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For me, I'm a single guy who isn't interested in long-term commitments!
For me, I prefer to live alone!
I definitely don't spend much time worrying about getting a date.
I wouldn't have much experience to be giving dating or marriage advice.
I actually embrace being a loner!
Yes, I do have friends. I just don't need to be around them 24-7!
The friend I go clubbing with the most is shorter than me, and trust me, women freak dance with him too.
But I sure know that even a non-jock like me have some sex appeal, and that I can get women dancing with me ;)
Everyone I grew up is aware of me growing up with social awkwardness. So much for getting dates or getting laid in my adolescence.
But so what!
I grow up and mature! I evolve!
I'm not desperate!
I have more important things to worry about!
I prefer to put more energy in working on my career plans!
I prefer to put more energy in improving my financial situation
I prefer to put more energy in staying healthy (note to self: eat less, bike more)
I prefer to put more energy in learning more about the world.
I prefer to put more energy in working towards greater psychological and spiritual health!
I prefer to put more energy in becoming a more mature confident adult.
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I take life and the world seriously.
But not every moment has to be serious
And when there's free time, I go to the clubs and be the life of the party :)
It's not hard. Just control your insecurities and get on the floor when your favorite songs are on!
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On a more serious note, you're not entitled to the love, a kiss, a hand hold, a sexual experience or even a freak dance from any woman!
If you feel entitled to any of that, GROW UP!
You have to earn things in life, even if others have easier time earning it than you!
You have to earn things in life, even if others have "unfair" advantages over you!
You have to make people want to be with you, you can't force it on them!
Here's some important readings on the angry incels issue. If you consider yourself an "angry incel", read them please
Ray Gootz, “The 33-year-old Virgin: Life Without Sex Is Only Torturous If You Let It Be,” Salon, June 02, 2014,
https://www.salon.com/2014/06/02/the_33_year_old_virgin_life_without_sex_is_only_torturous_if_you_let_it_be
Moira Donegan, “Actually We Don't Owe You Sex, and We Never Will,” Cosmopolitan, May 4, 2018, https://www.cosmopolitan.com/politics/a20138446/redistribution-sex-incels/.
Nagoski, Emily. “I’m sorry you’re lonely but it’s not my job to help you: the science of incels.” Medium. May 5, 2018. https://medium.com/@enagoski/im-sorry-you-re-lonely-but-it-s-not-my-job-to-help-you-the-science-of-incels-25bf83e2aaa0
Lynch, Conor. “Angry young white men, the “incel rebellion” and an age of worldwide reaction.” Salon. May 12, 2018. https://www.salon.com/2018/05/12/angry-young-white-men-the-incel-rebellion-and-an-age-of-worldwide-reaction/
Jessica Valenti, “When Misogynists Become Terrorists,” New York Times, April 26, 2018, https://mobile.nytimes.com/2018/04/26/opinion/when-misogynists-become-terrorists.html.
You don't even have to have the fancy dance moves of Chris Brown or Bobby Brown. You don't even have to have their ex-teen pop idol turned bad boy persona either!
You just have to get on the dance floor and enjoy yourself.
On some nights, men will outnumber women at the club. Other nights, more couples will show up and not that many singles. In those cases, you just can't take it personal if you don't get a woman freak dancing with you! Just enjoy the music!
But on nights where there's more single women around, your luck will increase. You don't have to look like the stereotypical jock! You won't even have to put any effort to pursue women, all you have to do is get on the dance floor, and women will come to you!
I've seen short men, nerdy men, disabled men, fat men, skinny men, all kinds of men having women freak dance with them.
I've been able to freak dance with women of various shapes, sizes, colors, and ethnicities. I've done it all.
I mention this not to claim I'm some superstud! ! Any man who've been clubbing for over a decade would've already had experiences of freak dancing with women of various shapes, sizes, colors, and ethnicities.
You don't need to go clubbing every weekend, you don't want to overdo it! 5 times a year is enough for me!
So if you've been clubbing for about a decade, and you go 5 times a year, and 3 out of 5 times (my average), you have at least one woman dancing with you, that means have already freak danced with at least 30 women!
And the beauty of it is, as I mentioned earlier, you don't have to look like a jock to do all of that! You don't have to work hard to pursue! All you have to do is just get on the dance floor and enjoy the music!
===========
Notice that I'm not even talking getting dates or even having sex with them! I'm just talking about dancing with them at the club!
Just dancing with them will let you know you do have some sex appeal.
The incels could just come to the nightclub with good spirits, they would be getting freak dances for real!
And with freak dances, you don't have to worry about unplanned pregnancies or STDs. A freak dance just brings you joy without commitment and without the perils of sexual intercourse.
And those freak dances will give a memory bank of experiences that you can rely on to give you nostalgic feelings.
====================
And No, you don't need alcohol (aka "liquid courage" aka False Courage) to develop the confidence to get on the dance floor and get women dancing with you! Just bring a zest for fun music & fun times!
============
For me, I'm a single guy who isn't interested in long-term commitments!
For me, I prefer to live alone!
I definitely don't spend much time worrying about getting a date.
I wouldn't have much experience to be giving dating or marriage advice.
I actually embrace being a loner!
Yes, I do have friends. I just don't need to be around them 24-7!
The friend I go clubbing with the most is shorter than me, and trust me, women freak dance with him too.
But I sure know that even a non-jock like me have some sex appeal, and that I can get women dancing with me ;)
Everyone I grew up is aware of me growing up with social awkwardness. So much for getting dates or getting laid in my adolescence.
But so what!
I grow up and mature! I evolve!
I'm not desperate!
I have more important things to worry about!
I prefer to put more energy in working on my career plans!
I prefer to put more energy in improving my financial situation
I prefer to put more energy in staying healthy (note to self: eat less, bike more)
I prefer to put more energy in learning more about the world.
I prefer to put more energy in working towards greater psychological and spiritual health!
I prefer to put more energy in becoming a more mature confident adult.
====
I take life and the world seriously.
But not every moment has to be serious
And when there's free time, I go to the clubs and be the life of the party :)
It's not hard. Just control your insecurities and get on the floor when your favorite songs are on!
=========
On a more serious note, you're not entitled to the love, a kiss, a hand hold, a sexual experience or even a freak dance from any woman!
If you feel entitled to any of that, GROW UP!
You have to earn things in life, even if others have easier time earning it than you!
You have to earn things in life, even if others have "unfair" advantages over you!
You have to make people want to be with you, you can't force it on them!
Here's some important readings on the angry incels issue. If you consider yourself an "angry incel", read them please
Ray Gootz, “The 33-year-old Virgin: Life Without Sex Is Only Torturous If You Let It Be,” Salon, June 02, 2014,
https://www.salon.com/2014/06/02/the_33_year_old_virgin_life_without_sex_is_only_torturous_if_you_let_it_be
Moira Donegan, “Actually We Don't Owe You Sex, and We Never Will,” Cosmopolitan, May 4, 2018, https://www.cosmopolitan.com/politics/a20138446/redistribution-sex-incels/.
Nagoski, Emily. “I’m sorry you’re lonely but it’s not my job to help you: the science of incels.” Medium. May 5, 2018. https://medium.com/@enagoski/im-sorry-you-re-lonely-but-it-s-not-my-job-to-help-you-the-science-of-incels-25bf83e2aaa0
Lynch, Conor. “Angry young white men, the “incel rebellion” and an age of worldwide reaction.” Salon. May 12, 2018. https://www.salon.com/2018/05/12/angry-young-white-men-the-incel-rebellion-and-an-age-of-worldwide-reaction/
Jessica Valenti, “When Misogynists Become Terrorists,” New York Times, April 26, 2018, https://mobile.nytimes.com/2018/04/26/opinion/when-misogynists-become-terrorists.html.
