http://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2016/01/control-your-curiosity.html
plus the YouTube speech
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UqYmYUUp-4Y
About 2 weeks after the original blog post and YouTube speech was posted, one of the kids at one of the schools I work at said "Hey Pablo, control your curiosity"
Yes teachers, students will look your name up and find your posts.
I knew that was going to happen sooner or later, though in this case, the "control your curiosity" posts that was being referred to dealt with situations that kid was too young to have experienced!
That's OK, kids are going to learn about those things sooner or later!
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Anyways, there are "control your curiosity" advice that is applicable to children & teens.
For example, sometimes a counselor/vice-prinicipal/etc will walk into a classroom to speak with a specific student.
The other students would usually ask "what happened".
I tell the students "the issue doesn't involve you" or "that's between the school official and that student" and if it's important to the other students, the school official will talk to the other students.
I feel the same way about student grades. I never liked it when teachers mentioned student's test scores (any scores for that matter) to the whole class.
Teachers should be teaching kids to ............control your curiosity.
What the other kid's scored on the test is that kid's business! That is something to be shared with just the teacher, student and parent. You don't need to know!
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Now, for something that applies to all ages.
Unless you are psychologist/psychiatrist/counselor/etc, DO NOT ask too many questions about another person's traumatic moments!
Talking about one's traumatic moments is DRAINING!
People don't want to be talking about something that will make them break down in either tears or fits of anger!
Asking probing questions about a person's trauma can magnify that person's wounds and can make the situation worse!
This is why counselors/psychiatrists/etc go through specialized training (which usually includes at least a master's degree)!
Those whose traumas are recent are still trying to process what happened, which is why many victims of abuse (sexual, spousal, you name it) don't come forward right away!
This is why counselors/psychiatrists/etc go through specialized training (which usually includes at least a master's degree)!
It's one to be the friend that wants to be a comforter, but if the other person doesn't want to talk about it ................BACK OFF!
As for me, I'd rather be writing about my problems than talking about it! If you want to learn more, just read my blogs!
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Also, I did find it disturbing in the LIS 650 class (Management of Libraries & Info Centers), professor Rich Gazan (whose real expertise is databases and informatics, not management) opened the 1st day of class with "tell me about a boss that you didn't like". He was probably thinking "I want to discuss what can go wrong with management" but that's the wrong way to do it!
By asking ""tell me about a boss that you didn't like", he was pressuring people to talk about seriously traumatic situations that they might not even be comfortable discussing with closest friends, much less a room full of strangers!
Just goes to show why why counselors/psychiatrists/etc go through specialized training, none of which condones pressuring the entire class to discuss their traumatic moments in front of everyone!
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Enough of trauma (for now), I will discuss just one more thing people need to control their curiosity!
Personal finances.
I don't tell people about my personal finances. How much money I have is none of your business (unless you are my personal financial advisor, or an authorized bank employee).
For one thing, telling people how much money you have is an invitation for hackers, scam artists and other predators.
Many of those financial predators come to you acting all friendly, making you feel that you have nothing to be ashamed to share with them! Then they strike!
They also listen in to conversations that aren't really their business!
Don't ask me questions about my personal finances. Control your curiosity!
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Here's the video "Control your curiosity (part 2)"
"Control your curiosity (part 2)"
