I was hoping I wouldn't have to post a follow-up to my blog post "exposed to the light" but screw it, I gotta do it
Here's that "exposed to the light" blog post
http://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2012/03/exposed-to-light.html
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I have recieved an e-mail from a friend who thinks his advice like "dont let it get to you", "forget about it", "let it go" are going to help!
That type of advice DOES NOT WORK ON SOMEONE WHO IS ANGRY!
It will only increase that person's anger, but this time, IT WILL BE DIRECTED AT YOU for giving such "high-minded" nonsense!
Advice like "dont let it get to you", "forget about it", "let it go" is just like telling someone "just surrender to your enemies and kiss their ass", "your grievances aren't important" , "I will tell you how to feel"
I also felt like I'm being told "You need to hold things in forever!" and "don't hold others accountable for mistreating you" and "don't stand up for yourself"
Those words can be taken as Fighting Words!
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I'm sure that friend had the best intentions. Me &that friend go way back, to our middle school years.
However, I never asked that friend for his opinion on my "Exposed to the Light" blog post
He thought his unsolicited advice would help! It won't, it's just a bunch of USELESS CLICHE'S!
So, if you notice someone is angry, either
1) pick a side in the conflict
or
2) mediate and set up a peace talk
or
3)shut up & just get out of the way
