Don't have time to write much right now, but I really wanted to share this post
Here's my re-write on what I posted
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Twenty-four male graduates from Kamehameha Schools and two from other schools allege in a lawsuit filed today that they were systematically sexually abused and prescribed inappropriate prescription drugs as children by the head of Kamehameha’s department of psychiatry, who later shot himself to death in 1991 when confronted by the allegations.
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Notice that when Bill Cosby's victims finally went public, people ask "why did you wait so long?"But when male victims of molestation wait decades to go public, there isn't much questions of "why did you wait so long?"
It's good to have some curiosity but some people take it way too far! We are all guilty of it, but it's good to learn when to control your curiosity so you don't make the other person uncomfortable with your excessive questions!
While I do write blog posts about certain life situations and do write facebook posts almost daily, that doesn't mean I am obligated to answer personal questions that are really none of your business.
I mean, I try to avoid asking the following questions to people
how much money you make
any questions about anyone's sex life
any questions about traumatic events
And if I do ask those questions, and the person doesn't want to answer -- I stop asking about the subject!
and if someone doesn't answer certain questions .... Do NOT take that personal!
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Don't Kiss And Tell
This means DO NOT TALK ABOUT and DO NOT ANSWER ANY QUESTIONS about any sexual activities.
(only exception : if dealing with a health professional or any law enforcement or legal professional dealing with serious health and/or criminal cases)
Women are usually (but not always) sensitive to this! They don't like it when their boyfriends/lovers/one-night-stands/whatevers tell their friends about their sexual activities!
So if you take a groupie home, and your friends want to know more????? DO NOT TELL THEM ANYTHING! DO NOT ANSWER THEIR QUESTIONS!!!
I mean, I remember back in school days, when my friends tell me what girl they like, I NEVER TELL THEM what girl I like!
I mean, it's none of your damn business! Figure out it yourself!!
And plus, when I found out this guy like this girl...........oh shizz, I was making fun of the whole situation!
I didn't want to be made fun out of (by people who act like me), so I said NOTHING when someone ask "what girl you like?" I was too smart to fall into that trap!
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The Game is to be sold Not to be Told
90's era hip-hop fans might remember that phrase from the title of Snoop Dogg's album that came out in 1998. That was the album he did when he joined the No Limit family and worked with Master P!
The phrase "The Game is to be sold, Not to be Told" mean you sell an idea but YOU DON'T TELL THE DETAILS.
That was supposed to originate with the drug dealing business, but it applies to all businesses. Especially your personal business!
You sell the idea, let the people figure out the details for themselves!
I might post a few party photos on facebook, but I'm NOT telling the details. In other words, I'm selling the party life, not telling the details. I'm selling the game, not telling the game!
So you see this photo on facebook from a night of clubbing, and you want to ask "did you freak dance with any girls?" .................I'M NOT TELLING YOU!
Sometimes in life, you just have to be there!
If you ain't there, you ain't going to know!
I don't kiss & tell!
I will NOT tell you details of who I was dancing with! Or if we did anything afterwards (use your own imagination)
PS: OK, I will give one important detail about my party life: I don't do any drugs nor do I drink any alcohol! I am willing to take any breathalyzer test any night I'm at the club!
PS #2: Do NOT confuse my "no telling" message with the "no snitching, no tattling message". If you are a victim or a witness of a violent crime, yes DO TELL the authorities!
Here is a letter to Bervar & Jones, a law firm covered by Legal Shield, a pre-paid legal service
In the interest of dealing with my personal finances and as well as re-evaluating who I am doing business with, I am currently reconsidering whether I shall continue with LegalShield and Bervar & Jones.
The main factor that is motivating me to switch away from using LegalShield and Bervar & Jones is that when I was dealing with case #(number deleted from this blog post) , I asked Attorney Thuan Costa if I could meet with her to discuss the case, and she responded "we only do this over the phone".
I find this to be an extremely unacceptable business practice and I totally regret not pressing further to have an in-person consultation. An in-person consultation is vastly superior to a phone consultation for the following reasons
static over the phone
wind interference
volume issues with the phone
in-person I can just point out to a document instead of wasting my breath saying 5 sentences when I can just point "this statement right here"
Better for the client to have a scheduled in-person consultation than to have to wait for the phone to ring!
Never again will I EVER accept any attorney services that don't allow for the option of an in-person consultation!
If Bervar & Jones will not accept having in-person consultations in any of my future dealings, then I will have to say "Bye Felicia" to both Legal Shield and Bervar & Jones!
Please let me know within 2 weeks with a written statement that I will be guaranteed an in-person consultation (option) for any case I might deal with, otherwise, I will move on to a more suitable attorney service!
Mahalo,
Pablo Wegesend
PS: This was dealing with a case dealing with "Professional Victim Professor", which I wrote several blog posts about!
Some people are great at one thing, and they get promoted to jobs that are totally above and beyond their competencies!
For
example, We see great assistant coaches fail as head coaches! (ie. Norm
Chow) We seen the case of former Apple store executive fail as the CEO
of JC Penney's.
And here at UH-Manoa , we have an expert on databases and informatics being placed in a similar position.
(His name: Dr Rich Gazan)
Don't
get me wrong, he was great in teaching the database searching class!
You could feel his passion and you know he had real work experience in
the field! I loved that class, big time!
But he also taught the
Library Management! His
passion wasn't there! It was obvious he was going through the motions!
Whereas this a class about library management, NEVER did he talk about
"when I was a library manager" because he had ZERO practical experience
managing a library!
He even admitted to me (behind closed doors) that he had no experience
managing a library staff!
All he could do was talk about theory and
come up with filler activities that had nothing to do with managing
libraries!
His groupies defend him with "but he
managed this and he so smart". So what? You want a library manager to
teach a class about running an auto repair shop? HELL NO! So why have a
library management course be taught by some database genius who has
ZERO experience managing a library staff?
--------------- Also, I did find it disturbing in the LIS 650 class , Dr. Rich Gazan opened the 1st day of class with "tell me about a boss that you didn't like". He was probably thinking "I want to discuss what can go wrong with management" but that's the wrong way to do it!
By asking ""tell me about a boss that you didn't like", he was pressuring people to talk about seriously traumatic situations that they might not even be comfortable discussing with closest friends, much less a room full of strangers!
Just goes to show why why counselors/psychiatrists/etc go through specialized training, none of which condones pressuring the entire class to discuss their traumatic moments in front of everyone!
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And
then, when the former LIS Program Chair got burned out, Mr database man (aka Dr Rich Gazan) took over! So now we got an LIS Chair who had no library managing
experience and whose main passion is database and informatics.
That's
like having botany expert run the zoology dept. I mean they have their
similarities, but it's not the same thing!
So here we have this Ivory Tower expert handling things that are way outside of his area of expertise!
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Now,
this blog post is a bigger risk than the ones about "Professional
Victim Professor" (aka Dr Noriko Asato)
While Noriko Asato uses her small size as a crutch to
play victim, Dr Gazan is physically bigger than I am. He looks like
he played linebacker in American football, or played rugby, water polo
or some other physical sport! While usually has an easy-going
personality, an even an easy-going person may not take lightly to these
criticisms. While he may be bigger than me, he's not bigger than some
of the people in Hawaii prisons, where Dr Gazan will be a minority.
As
for the LIS Chairperson Dr Rich Gazan, while he is great in talking
about databases, informatics and information science in general, he is
way out of his league to even talk about library management, much less
bring solutions to this problem!
He
tells me that by sending the letter to HSL director about my side of
the story about my problems Tisha Aragaki, then I'm "giving them
ammunition". What he's really telling me is "how dare you refuse to
suffer in silence". That's when I lost respect for Dr Gazan!
Irony
is, when he approved Asato's stupid "contract of silence", he wasn't
just giving me ammunition, he gave me nuclear weapons to use against him
and Asato! Dr Chin know how potent the nukes I got from Asato/Gazan
that he just told Gazan/Asato to surrender to my refusal to sign their
"contract of silence"!
Dr Gazan even questioned me with "who do you think Ms Eddy going to believe - someone she worked with for years or some intern" as if I didnt think of that all when typing the letter! In other words, Gazan (and Asato) thinks people should be cowards and not try anything that isn't guaranteed to be 100% success!
You
see Asato/Gazan discourages people from having courage. They both tell
people that you suffer whatever life gives you and you should be
discouraged from attempting to get better treatment! What Asato/Gazan is telling me is "No Snitching/No Tattling".
The "No Snitching/No Tattling" is a psychologically dangerous message and anybody who promotes such messages needs to be publicly exposed to the light!
So let me re-emphasize my points in a more clear way
Dr Rich Gazan when you tell me "by
sending the letter to HSL director about my side of the story about my
problems Tisha Aragaki, then I'm giving them ammunition", sir that is equivalent to telling me "Stop Snitching, Stop Tattling"
Dr Rich Gazan, when you asked me ""who do you think Ms Eddy going to believe - someone she worked with for years or some intern", sir that is equivalent to telling me"Stop Snitching, Stop Tattling"
Dr Rich Gazan when you tell me "by sending the letter to HSL director about my side of the story" that I am ruining careers, sir that is equivalent to telling me "Stop Snitching, Stop Tattling"
Dr Rich Gazan, you want to tell me messages that are equivalent to"Stop Snitching, Stop Tattling"? Then Screw You!
Anyone who promotes that equivalent of " Stop Snitching, Stop Tattling" is using the tactics of low-life scum!
Apparently, Dr Gazan's boss (Dr David Chin) understand that and over-ruled Dr Gazan and Dr Noriko Asato! Dr Chin also earned my total respect for that! So in one sense, I won, Dr Gazan (and Dr Asato) LOST!
Some will say "you won, let it go". However, anyone who promotes the equivalent of "Stop
Snitching, Stop Tattling" needs to be exposed to the light, because
they are very dangerous to the psychological well-being of anyone they
come in contact with! They need to be exposed to the light, so that they
can't infect the next person in a situation similar to mine.
As
for Dr Gazan's database expertise, while I find it very credible since
he worked in online indexing and expressed real expertise in the field
(unlike his library management class), he should have used his online searching expertise BEFORE telling me this "Stop Snitching, Stop Tattling" nonsense.
If he bothered to use his online search expertise, he would've known the following
I
stood up to the biggest, baddest, rudest mid-level sales manager at Ala
Moana Macy's and refused to take off my Santa hat even after she got
into my face and repeated "take that hat off"
When taunted by
Nadine Chun (an extremely rude staff member at Palolo Elementary
School), I slammed a few chairs, and then sent one of the biggest,
baddest, meanest letter to ever question a senior staff member. The
principal was on my side, even though Ms Chun cried to the police. I was
NEVER prosecuted for this, as the police only interviewed me about the
incident.
I wrote a blog post describing one of the meanest
co-workers ever, Jesse Newman. He is very dangerous and writing the blog
post was major risk to my physical safety.
I wrote "Public Shaming of Hawaii's bigots" which
I basically called out a former classmate for being a trashy person,
because of her racist remarks about another racial group. That classmate
has one of the most vicious posts that I have ever read on my facebook
news feed! She is an extremely emotionally disturbed person who could be
very dangerous! My blog post was another risk to my personal safety!
I
posted some flyers around UH-Manoa about my dissatisfaction with the
editor and faculty advisor of Ka Leo! After posting those flyers, I
attended a public meeting where the editor and faculty advisor was
present! I yelled into the mic ripping them in front of everyone!
So yeah Dr Rich Gazan, if you did your job as a database expert,YOU WOULD HAVE KNOWN ALL THAT!
And you would've known that your "Stop Snitching, Stop Tattling" nonsense will NEVER work on me!
Come on Mr Database Man, are you really so stupid that you though you can tell me BS like..................
my letter to HSL is giving them ammunition
who do you think Ms Eddy going to believe - someone she worked with for years or some intern
...................and have me fall into your line of thinking?
Are you really that stupid Mr Genius?
Are you really so stupid to think I'm just another kiss ass?
However, Dr Rich Gazan, there is a way to redeem yourself .......................
Stay in your lane! Stick to teaching about databases!
Stay in your lane! Stick to teaching about information science, leave the library management courses to someone who can actually say with credibility "when I was a library manager....."
Stay in your lane! Stop telling people anything equivalent to "stop snitching, no tattling"!
You're not a gangster!You might be bigger than me, but some real thugs at Halawa can knock you out with one punch!
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Now, some memes about Dr Rich Gazan, to make him uncomfortable about doing searches about himself in front of his next database class.
By the way, all those photos were taken by me at an event, so I own all copyrights to these images!
So, Dr Rich Gazan, is this how you want to be known?
This is what happens to corrupt officials who say stupid things to me! You should have seen this coming!
PS: IF Dr Gazan, any LIS or UH-Manoa official wants to have a conversation about this will have to consent being recorded by my mobile device. Whether the recordings goes on YouTube or any other online forum will be determined by myself by whatever reason I choose!
In case you can't read from that screenshot, it shows my stage name ...... Pablo the Mad Tiger Warrior
I still wanted to keep the "Mad Tiger" name, but I also wanted to honor my university name, so I added "Warrior" to my stage name!
As for the "rainbow" which also is part of the university name........................ I might incorporate into a song, or an album or...........................
......if I do an album outside my usual genres, I might temporarily change it torainbow TigerWarrior!
.....just like how Snoop Dogg temporarily became Snoop Lion when he did a reggae album!
Pablo the TigerWarrior! Pablo the rainbow Tiger Pablo the Green Tiger!
------------ But the thing about selecting stage names I forgot to consider is .................................. has it already been taken? OK, with a Google Search, I found there was no other "Pablo the (fill in the blank) ". It's the last 2 words in the stage names that could be a problem!
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Let's start with "Mad Tiger" Here is what Google found
There's this Japanese movie about some crazy performers and there's a judo academy in Mililani! But then again, I already mentioned about being "Pablo The Mad Tiger" back in 2003, I even named my 1st blog (before I switched to this blog) http://pablothemadtiger.blogspot.com/ So let's look at the other stage names --------------------- TigerWarrior! Here is what Google found
"Tiger Warrior" is a novel that came out in 2009!
But I already declared myself "Pablo The Tiger Warrior" back in 2008!
But the novel writer probably won't know that and will probably take legal action not knowing that!
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rainbow Tiger
Here is what Google found
There is a 2004 children's book titled the "Rainbow Tiger", which is supposed to be a story about a tiger that wanted to be multi-colored like a rainbow.
So yeah, I might get a trademark suit if I called myself a "Rainbow Tiger".
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Green Tiger! Here is what Google found
So many Green Tigers! There's a vegetarian restaurant in Thailand, a marijuana dealer in Long Beach, a publisher in Seattle, and an Irish company dealing with fuel efficiency! Plus, so many images of green tigers! -----------------------
Or maybe I should just give everyone's vocal cords and typing fingers more work by combining my stage names like
Pablo the rainbow TigerWarrior! Pablo the Mad Tiger Warrior I'm leaning toward the 2nd one, though the 1st one might work too!
Back in my younger days, I wanted my own record label. I even wrote a few songs, which was my way of expressing my opinions before I started this blog!
However, time went by and other priorities took hold.
But now with my own computer and with Music Maker Jam app installed, I am now doing instrumental tracks online.
SO my music label dreams are coming back to fruition!
So it's time to talk about my "stage name".
When I first started thinking of having a record label, I wanted to be Pablo The Mad Tiger!
Tiger, because at that time, I was a student at McKinley High School : Home of the Tigers Mad, because hey, Mad Tiger sounds cool. Yes, i've long been aware of Mad Lion, the Jamaican dancehall artist, but I'm not even close to copying his style!
The during my undergraduate years at the University of Hawaii - Mānoa, I thought - why not combine the college mascot and the high school mascot ...................and call myself.............. ...........Pablo the TigerWarrior! I even announced the name change back in 2008 http://pablothemadtiger.blogspot.com/2008_03_01_archive.html#287258314802201582
Anyways, I have also been thinking of other "stage names"
For example, being that UH sports teams now have the rainbownickname again ......... I was thinking about ............... Pablo the rainbow Tiger
Sounds like a cute & funny name, however, that nickname does come with a major distraction, the same distraction that made UH Athletics abandon the rainbowname for a while! You see, back in 2000, then-UH Athletics Director abandon the rainbow namedue to the opponent's taunting the rainbow name as a "gay name" You can read more about that at http://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2013/05/the-rainbows-are-back.html http://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2013/02/uh-sports-nicknames.html So yeah, I'm nervous that if I adopt the Pablo the rainbow Tiger name, that it will draw tons of questions of "are you LGBT?" The answer is NO ................though as Jerry Seinfeld said "not like there's anything wrong with that" Though, even with the marriage issue settled by the Supreme Court, too many still see something wrong with it!
I mean, yeah, I'll defend the LGBT's right to be safe from violence & discrimination,
But I don't want to spend my career being distracted by the question about that one issue! And dammit, I also like to be able to dance with female groupies without accusations of "over-compensating" and "hiding something" But then again, I can just go back the original reason for the rainbow name ................. it's my university's nickname DAMMIT!
andit's a funny & cute name ;)
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Or I can use my university's color and call myself Pablo the Green Tiger! Though, the moment I step outside not wearing any green clothes, I would get the "Saint Patrick pinch" and be bombarded with "hey, why you not wearing Green, Mister Green Tiger?"
Green is also associated with the Green Party, a political party that is a bit too lefty and socialist for my taste! I mean, I do agree with the Green Party on some issues, but disagree on others!
Green is also associated with the environment! While I definitely want to keep our land, water and air clean, I do have a disagreement with some environmental activists especially when it comes to their anti-plastic jihad! Also, while I love renewable energy, I do think we still need to be realistic and understand that we still need some oil and natural gas ....................for now!
But still,green is my favorite color, plus... Green Tiger is unique!
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Anyways, here is my 4 "stage names" again
Pablo The Mad Tiger!
Pablo the TigerWarrior! Pablo the rainbow Tiger Pablo the Green Tiger! ------------ So tell me what you think. Email me or contact my facebook!
Or should I be like Sean Combs have tons of nicknames?
