Saturday, March 25, 2017

gender and interruptions

There has been many articles about women being interrupted by men.

https://www.globalcitizen.org/en/content/women-interrupted-men-app/

http://nytlive.nytimes.com/womenintheworld/2015/03/19/google-chief-blasted-for-repeatedly-interrupting-female-government-official/


But is it really because men only interrupt women? 

I don't think so



If you actually listen to a group conversation with all males, you hear TONS and TONS of interruptions. So many interruptions that men with less verbal stamina feel overpowered and under-appreciated. So it's not surprise that the same males who dominate all-male conversations with their interruptions will do the same around women.
So ladies, if you feel you're being interrupted by a man, it doesn't mean he does it to you because you're a woman, because chances are he does it to men all the time. It's just that men are expected to either interrupt back or accept defeat.

Also, some women are not only notorious interrupters, some even play victim when stood up to!

The worst example is Keala Richard & Jan Kamiya, two sexist pigs  I wrote about at  http://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2016/06/librarians-who-hate-evolution-theories.html

They must've seen that blog post because I noticed that post got a lot of clicks.



Also, Bernie Sanders got backlash for (gasp) telling Hillary Clinton to stop interrupting him.





But you know what?  

Equal rights, Equal fights!

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Also, check out the blog post about the theatrical re-enactment with a a woman play the role of Donald Trump, and a man play the role of Hillary Clinton. The EXACT words, tone and hand motions made in this role playing.

http://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2017/03/gender-double-standards-and.html


like shaming

(note: the following was from a facebook post)

Apparently, there's this new thing called  "like shaming" where people are lectured over not clicking the "like" icon on facebook posts, lectured with accusations of "not caring about the issues", "not showing enough sympathy" or even "only (insert gender, race, etc) liked the post, nobody else cared"!

I'm sorry, but you're not entitled to a "like" for every post! In many cases, I might sympathize with the issue, but didn't press the "like" icon because I disagree with maybe 10%, or disagree with the tone it was said. Or I haven't yet developed a coherent philosophy on the issue! If "likes" are so important to you, then adjust your message. or better yet, stop worrying about how many "likes" your post gets. It's more important to plant of seed of thought that might grow in the other person's mind than to get the instant gratification you get from a "like" Guilt tripping people for "likes" is not going to work



of course, that post got some laughter and jokes about "liking" my post 

and I got this amazing response from one of my facebook friends

This is totally my experience too, Pablo. I often don't click like  if there is something tainting the rest of the message. Like how I won't drink a cup of clean water if there's a little dirty water added. I don't want to support the part I don't like. 

and this 

 I agree with your points and I think that the undecided or 10% not in or in agreement with is a big factor, as you say, but the other scary new corollary is all the self-censorship - people not clicking "like" even when they want to because they are afraid of how others might view their "like" of something... so many witch hunts these days.

Public Shaming of Bigots in Hawaii (part2)


In the 1st edition of "Public Shaming of Bigots in Hawaii", I wrote about a former middle school classmate (Kimi Kailikea) who had hatred towards Micronesians.

http://pablowegesend.blogspot.com/2014/12/public-shaming-of-bigots-in-hawaii.html



Now, another former classmate is going to be exposed. She used to be known as Robyn Balidoy, but is now known as Robyn Sampiano.

I mostly knew her because she was in one of my high school classes. Didn't interact much, though one of my friends had a crush on one her friends. 

Then we re-connected on facebook. Robyn didn't post much political stuff until the topic of Syrian refugees came up! Robyn stereotypes Syrians as terrorists out to get us! She's a racist scaredy pansy.

Then Donald Trump had his first immigration restriction banning people from 7 mostly Muslim countries. (that later changed to 6).

Robyn claimed that it was no different from Bill Clinton and Barack Obama saying they'll enforce immigration laws.


But they didn't ban people who already had green cards and visas like Donald Trump did.


Anyways, here's some screenshots!




Robyn is about to see some examples


















Then one of her relatives Jesse Balidoy claimed that I'm a "sore loser" who can't handle Trump's victory and that because of my first name, I should be deported. 


This 31 second video is just too much reality for Jesse Balidoy to handle






As for Robyn, here's some annotated images, based on a photo of her from facebook!


Robyn Sampiano doesn't like being judged by former classmates, but quick to judge other people just because of where they come from



Robyn Sampiano is looking down on ethnic groups that are different from hers



Robyn Sampiano thinks nothing but the worst about Middle East refugees but gets sensitive when her ethnic group gets stigmatized!



Well, life is too short to deal with such small-minded people!
 Time to separate from them !


Sunday, March 19, 2017

Tracing my roots

I have long identified myself as "Mexican, Puerto Rican, Portuguese, German", though I'll throw "Spanish" into the mix since some of my Latin American ancestors were Spanish.

Because much of these countries had various tribes conquering over the centuries, I'm sure there's more to my genealogy story than just those listed ethnicities.


Yesterday, at a family gathering, my parents informed me that they have taken a DNA test (using their saliva) and sent it to "23andMe", a DNA testing services that matches aspects of your DNA with various ethnic groups from around the world

(note: learn more at https://www.23andme.com/)


1) My knowledge before my parent's DNA test



My dad was an immigrant from Mexico, more specifically Oaxaca, a state with a large native population.  My dad's mom is believed to be of pure native ancestry (with Zapotec, Toltec and whatever other tribes are in the area),  My dad's dad is of mostly Spanish ancestry.  So basically, a white man and a brown woman made my father. Of all his siblings, my father is the darkest brown and inherited much of the Native Mexican features.



My mother grew up in Hawaii and is of Puerto Rican, Portuguese and German ancestry.  I don't even look German, but I got my last name from my mother's side of the family. 

My mom's mom is a descendant of Puerto Ricans who came to Hawaii in the early 1900s to work in the sugar plantations.  Just looking at her, she has a tan-color skinned and I assume to have a mix of Spanish and some indigenous  ancestry (probably the Taino tribe).

My mom's dad is of Portuguese and German ancestry.  He was adopted by a Native Hawaiian family. In other words, he was a white boy raised in a Hawaiian home. He passed away a few months before I was born, so I was never really able to learn about that side of my ancestry. 

Because my mom's dad was adapted by a Native Hawaiian family, some relatives did apply to Kamehameha Schools (private school with a "preference" for Native Hawaiian children) and one got in. Obviously, that could anger some with real Native Hawaiian ancestry who feel their children are entitled to attend that school.

Though one of my uncles did marry a Native Hawaiian mom and had several kids with her. But it wasn't them that went to Kamehameha Schools. 

The whole issue raised tons of questions. Was that relative who got into Kamehameha Schools a case of fraud?  (turns out the parents inform the school of the adoption situation when applying) Or did we have some hidden Hawaiian genes from that Portuguese/German grandfather who was supposedly adopted.

In the 1990's, people have commented that my mother looked like Lokelani Lindsey, a controversial trustee of Kamehameha Schools with tons of scandals. Needless to say, my mom got some glares when she walked around the malls.  Lokelani Lindsey is believed to have a mix of Native Hawaiian and Portuguese, and other European ancestries. 

Add that up, my parents wanted to settle the issue "once and for all" and got the DNA test!



2) My knowledge after my parent's DNA test


"23 and Me", the DNA testing company breaks it down into the following groups


  • East Asian (including Southeast Asian) and Native American (for all of the Americas)
  • European (with splits for different regions of Europe)
  • Middle Eastern and North African
  • Sub-Saharan Africa (which splits into West African, East African, Central and South African)
  • South Asian
  • Oceanian (meaning Pacific Islanders)
"23 and Me" does narrow down these categories into specific tribes, but doesn't have the records for all the tribes. Their records are limited for specific tribes that are Native American and Oceanian.


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My father, who is visibly of Native Mexican, is listed as 43% Native American. Unfortunately, "23 and Me" was unable to break it down by  Native  American tribes that match my father.

He is also listed is 35% European, much of it "Iberian" (meaning Spain & Portugal).   There is some Sardinian in the mix. 

He has 4.5% Sub-Saharan African, most of it being West African.  My dad's home state of Oaxaca has a larger Afro-Mexican population as compared to other Mexican states. 

He has 1% North African ancestry.  The Moors, coming from what is now Morocco, has ruled over Spain & Portugal for a few centuries.

He has 1% Ashkenazi Jewish (meaning European Jewish)

He has also has 1% East Asian ancestry, with a mix of Mongolian, Japanese and Yakut!

Those numbers don't add up to 100% , because a certain percentage is either undetermined, or fits into a category of "broadly _____________" (for example, 10.1% is "broadly East Asian & Native American")  

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My mother's side of the family is seen as the "white" side of my family. She is listed as 86% European.

25% is Iberian (meaning both Spanish & Portuguese), 3.1% Italian, and 19.7% "broadly Southern European"

31.3% is Northwestern European.  While the last name I inherited from my mom is German, she also has "British & Irish" and Scandinavian ancestry.

0.6% is Eastern European ancestry, 0.2 % is Ashkenazi Jewish, and 6.2 is "broadly European".


6% is Native American. That has got to be the Puerto Rican side. Unfortunately, "23 and Me" was unable to break it down by  Native  American tribes that match my mother.

3.1% is Sub-Saharan African, most of it being West African.  The Spanish imported African slaves to Puerto Rico. The Portuguese also imported a few to the Azores & Madeiras (where much of the Portuguese who came to Hawaii came from). However, the Hawaii's plantation owners didn't want that many "black" people in their plantations, but I'm sure some of the African blood was present in some of the ones who came. 

2% is North African. As mentioned earlier, the Moors, coming from what is now Morocco, has ruled over Spain & Portugal for a few centuries.

There was no listed trace of Oceanian (Pacific Islander) blood on my mom's side . So basically her Portuguese-German father was adopted by Native Hawaiians, and therefore didn't have Native Hawaiian DNA. 

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So basically, the DNA tests confirmed that much of my ancestry is European  & Native American (though in this case, the "American" is below US borders).

I do have circa 3-4% African ancestry. I think much of that were African slaves were taken to Latin American plantations. Even though the Spanish & Portuguese were more likely to race mix with Natives & Africans in Latin America (as compared to the British in the USA), their racism made those who weren't obviously "black" ashamed to express their African ancestry. 

By the time the "Black & Proud" and "Black Power" slogans became popular throughout the Americas in the 1960s & 1970s, it was too late for those whose ancestors refused to admit their African ancestry, and therefore knowledge of their African ancestry was lost.  

While I'm a major hip-hop fan with a tiny % of West African DNA, I'm still going to restrain myself from saying a certain word common in hip-hop songs. I do it out of respect for the anti-racist cause.


I have about 1% Ashkenazi Jewish ancestry. For those who don't know, Ashkenazi were the Jews who settled in Europe centuries ago.  Just like the case with Africans, those with Jewish ancestries faced massive prejudice, and those who were mixed and not visibly Jewish were ashamed to admit such ancestries. Therefore knowledge of Jewish ancestries were lost to their descendants.

Also, being that history is filled with conquests, that means invading armies raped the women, forcing them to bear children of the hated invaders. Because of the stigma attached to rape, and stigma of sharing genes with the invaders, that could also mean that information  is lost. 

The reason I mentioned that is I'm thinking that my Scandinavian ancestors might've been the Vikings that raided much of northern Europe.  

Also, as obvious from my Latin American ancestry, the Spanish & Portuguese enslaved and raped some of my Native American and African ancestors. 


That all being said

  •  because we can't change the past,
  •  because our DNA has genetic information from so many different tribes, 
  • because history is filled with migrations, conquests and slave trades
  • because racist & ethnic stigma made many ashamed to admit some ancestries
we are all human, above our ethnic, racial and national identities.

As the late Rodney King famously said "can't we all just get along?"


Friday, March 17, 2017

Deplorables temper tantrum against Hawaii

Hawaii's Attorney General  Doug Chin successfully won the lawsuit to stop Donald Trump's immigration restriction from 6 Muslim-majority nations.

Now, there was a #BoycottHawaii twitter campaign from Donald Trump's supporter.

The silliest one came from Philip Schuyler





Hawaii, what do you know? You were 5,000 miles from 9/11. You run your little world and let the grownups run the mainland.



Here's my response to that Deplorable Correctness garbage







"(QUOTE)"Hawaii, what do you know?
You were 5,000 miles from 9/11. "(UNQUOTE)"
Fool, the Pearl Harbor attacks happened in our backyards. We have relatives who were nearby on that fateful day!
And you know what? We now allow our Japanese population to thrive. We even elected them as our governor, senator, and state legislators. They're the majority of our public school teachers. We allow Japanese business people and tourists to come to Hawaii!
You know why? Because we know that the sadistic Japanese military rulers of the WW2 era DO NOT represent the average Japanese person.
We moved on from the Pearl Harbor attacks a long time ago! If we can do that, then you have ZERO excuse to continue pimping 9/11 to promote your racist BS!


In other words, time for deplorables to GROW UP and STOP BEING VICTIMS!

Being  traumatized by 9/11 is NO EXCUSE for racist hatred and stereotype!

Mature adults can be traumatized by terror attacks AND still believe in treating everyone from every nation as individuals instead of members of groups!

Mature adults can be traumatized by terror attacks AND understand that not every Muslim/Middle Easterner/etc supported those attacks!

Mature adults can be traumatized by terror attacks AND acknowledge that stereotyping and profiling based on ethnicity is wrong.

Mature adults can demand that terrorists be brought to justice AND want everyone else from the same ethnicities to be left alone!

This "I'm traumatized by 9/11, now I'm going to hate all Muslims/Middle Easterners/etc because I'm mad & scared" is immature horse-trash! It's bad enough coming from a middle schooler, but it's much worse coming from an adult!

If Hawaii can be mature about its Pearl Harbor trauma, then it's time for the continental USA to grow up and start mature about its 9/11 trauma!

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Meanwhile, the #BoycottHawaii hashtag doesn't bother people in Hawaii, in fact, we want to Trump deplorable supporters to stay away from our islands.

http://elitedaily.com/news/politics/trump-supporters-threaten-hawaii-boycott/1827418/

https://mic.com/articles/171415/conservatives-are-boycotting-hawaii-over-trump-s-muslim-ban-hawaiians-are-fine-with-that#.i3ZCEBmlZ

http://www.foxnews.com/travel/2017/03/17/why-trump-supporters-boycotthawaii-movement-is-backfiring.html


Amelia Williams @dearlandgirl Um, ok, #BoycottHawaii, leave that beautiful, tropical paradise for us non- racist, pro-environment, science and arts liberals. Sound logic.



McSpocky™ 👽 @mcspocky Hawaii was already paradise. Now if deplorables #BoycottHawaii, it will be a heaven on earth.



Stan Godinet @SGodinet808 Yes Trumpers, #BoycottHawaii. We only want kind, accepting, loving, non judgemental, respectful, tolerant, tourists here in our islands 🤙🏽




Mashka @Obval83 Fastest way to increase tourism to Hawaii? Tell the rest of the world Trump supporters aren’t coming. Cha-ching!


Hawaii: now free of Trump supporters



Trump deplorables try to scare us by saying they won't spend their $$$ on us! 


We can get our $$$ elsewhere.

In fact, I'll say that if Hawaii becomes independent, we can attract foreign tourists who don't want to put up with US travel restrictions!

Who the hell wants to come to a country where they'll be harassed by authorities on arrival?

So it's Donald Trump that's a danger to Hawaii.

Time for Hawaii to become independent!

That way, we can stop with this silliness of being afraid of Muslims/Middle Eastern tourists!

That way, we can start doing advertising campaigns in India, Indonesia, and the Middle East to encourage their people to visit and do business here!

Imagine some of the Dubai $$$ coming here! We could use it!


Imagine having more Turkish, Egyptians, Nigerian and Indonesians coming as tourists, exchange students and entrepreneurs.

Imagine tech executives from India investing their $$$ in Hawaii.

Time to diversify the groups of foreigners visiting and investing here!

While I respect the North Americans, East Asians and Australians who make up most of our tourists and foreign investors, it will be GREAT to have more variety of people visiting and investing here!

We can also add other foreigners that scares the deplorables : Latin Americans.

Let's get more Mexican, Colombian, Peruvian, Chilean, Brazilian and Argentinian tourists here!

And when Cuba starts to embrace capitalism more, we can get Cubans to experience a different type of tropical paradise! 

Let's have more Spanish speakers walking around Waikiki and doing business deals on Bishop Street


And if that scares the Trump's deplorables  --- GOOD!

It's not like these white nationalists would even like being in Hawaii anyways. 


Wednesday, March 15, 2017

Hoops, There it Is!


Again, I battle the hate-filled extremists who want cultural segregation.

We're talking about the Phony Justice Warriors who rant against "cultural appropriation"

These Phony Justice Warriors who rant against "cultural appropriation" are The Epitome of venting recklessly!

A recent example involved 2 Latina activists  Alegria Martinez and Jacquelyn Aquilera, both of whom attend Pitzer College. Both stated that Anglo women should stop wearing hoop earrings (which are popular with Latina and African-American women)  because it is "exploitation" and "never yours to begin with".

http://www.dailywire.com/news/14236/racist-pitzer-college-students-just-told-white-elliott-hamilton
http://reason.com/blog/2017/03/10/pitzer-college-ra-tells-white-girls-to-s
http://www.nationalreview.com/article/445611/campus-email-white-girls-stop-wearing-hoop-earrings-cultural-appropriation

But the hoops earrings did NOT start with Latinas.

The earliest hoops earrings that we know about came from the Sumerians who were living in what is now Iraq thousands of years ago.  Romans, Greeks and Vikings (all of them Europeans: white people) wore those hoops earrings too!

But Alegria Martinez and Jacquelyn Aguilera who preaches to "white people" to "learn your history" about "white oppression" sure didn't learn the history of hoops earrings.

my screenshot of Alegria Martinez's facebook post, with annotation added via Jing





And a few months earlier, Helin Jung, had an article on Cosmopolitan (since deleted online) complaining about Victoria's Secret using Asian styles in their fashion show, as if it was just a bunch of "white people" "stealing" Asian styles.  Without regard to the fact that one of the designers involved was Arpana Rayamajhi (who happens to be of Nepalese ancestry).

http://www.nowtolove.com.au/fashion/fashion-news/was-the-victorias-secret-fashion-show-racist-14478

So it it was Helin Jung that disrespected Arpana Rayamajhi, not Donald Trump or Steve Bannon!


screenshot from Helin Jung's LinkedIn page
with annotations added via Jing



And Katie Kloss got some heat for a photo shoot wearing a kimono, as if there's supposed to be cultural segregation going on!


But here's a video from a woman who grew up in Japan, and noted that many of things we associated with Japanese culture actually started somewhere else




Too Much Reality for some to handle!

Vent Strategically, Not Recklessly

Being a part of a historically oppressed group doesn't  and should not exempt you from facing aggressive pushback when you say "I don't trust white people" or "I don't trust men".  If you want to be respected, you have to respect others!


People need to learn to vent strategically instead of venting recklessly. It's part of being an adult.

On my posts (on blogs and facebook), I aggressively criticize the racist, anti-immigration fear-mongering of people like Donald Trump, Ann Coulter, Jeff Sessions, Steve Bannon and Tomi Lahren. I note their double standards. I defend their victims.

But you don't see me calling people "crackers","honkies", "whiteys", "rednecks" or "f------- haoles".  

You don't see me saying stuff like "you white people will never understand", or anything like that.

Though when one European-American said on facebook he didn't understand why people focused so much on Trump's racial slurs, I just told him "if you were on Oahu were living on its westside, or living in the prison yard of Halawa or OCCC, you'll be ultra-sensitive about people using the word "haole" real quick!"

You see, I just reminded that there are places where he doesn't have the privilege, I didn't say "hey, stop whitesplaining to me" because that doesn't help him learn anything!


On to gender,  I called Donald Trump a "racist rapist" on facebook. I aggressively criticized other celebrity rapists like Bill Cosby, Jameis Winston and Ben Roethlisburger. I defend a woman's right to excel in any profession she chooses. I defend a woman's right to express their sexuality and I deplore people who call them "whores" or "sluts" for doing so!

You can do all of that without saying "I don't trust men", "men will never understand" or "men are pigs"


Some call that "tone policing".

I call that 
acting like a mature adult! 


As an adult, you have to be beyond acting like some angst-ridden teenager who vents recklessly! 

Even if you're a teenager reading this, you have to start practicing your vents strategically!

Martin Luther King vented strategically! He was bold in the face of racist injustice. He demand equal rights!  But he DID NOT say "white people will never get it" or anything like that!


Nelson Mandela vented strategically. He was bold in the face of racist injustice. He demanded equal rights! 
But he DID NOT say "white people will never get it" or anything like that!

Oprah Winfrey experienced racist and sexist injustice while growing up poor in Mississippi and Tennessee! She experienced abuse that nobody should go through! But she doesn't say "men will never get it" or "white people will never get it"! She doesn't say "men are pigs" or "whites are the devils". Instead she uses her shows and magazines to help people develop empathy and respect for each other. 


Everyone experiences hurts.

Suffering in silence harms your soul.

So you have to vent against injustice!

But you have to vent in a way that invites people to understand you! 

Saying "men are pigs" or "you got white privilege, you'll never understand" isn't going to help with that!

Now, sometimes venting might hurt some feelings. Make sure it is something like

  • this person is a racist because he said or did this
  • this person is a sexual predator and is lowlife scum

NOTICE that those statements are focused on an INDIVIDUAL


if it is focused on a group, it has to be a group based on beliefs or behavior, for example

  • I hate the KKK because they want to hurt non-white people
  • I hate Al Quaida because they commits acts of violent terror

Notice that those statements did NOT express hatred of any racial group! They only expressed anger of groups people chose to join for the purpose of hurting people. 

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This one woman who talked about "not trusting men" also happened to be the same exact woman who was upset that people didn't take anti-white racism seriously! I  reminded her that I was the one defending her against those Fake Justice Warriors, and that her comments about "not trusting men" were just like the anti-white racism she experienced in Hawaii.

She then apologize but also accused me of "not understanding" what men put women through!

Excuse me? 

Because I don't agree with anti-male sexism, I'm accused  of "not understanding" what men put women through!

I read TONS AND TONS AND TONS AND TONS of articles about the abuse women receive from abusive males.

That woman's problem is that she DOESN'T  UNDERSTAND that any human (especially adults my age, which she is) need to learn how to vent strategically, not recklessly!

Her anti-male sexism is RECKLESS!  It DOES NOT  make people more sympathetic to her pains, it makes them LESS sympathetic to her pains.

If you want respect, you have to show it!

Those who were abused are not exempt from that!

And this "not understanding" nonsense totally reminds me of this Asian-American classmate who said he hated Polynesians because he was bullied by them!

When I objected to his racist comments, he accused me of .............[drumroll please] ......."not understanding" what he went through!

He said "if that happened to you, you would understand"

Understand?

Does that guy even understand what it's like to grow up as Latino in Hawaii when most of my peers are of Asian or Pacific ancestries?

But you don't hear me expressing racism towards Asians, Polynesians, Europeans or whatevers who bullied me!

It's because I vent strategically, not recklessly!

I know what it's like to be different from others around me! I know what it's like to be bullied? I know what it's like to be humiliated in front of others! I know what it's like to grow body hairs earlier than my peers! I know what it's like to live in ghetto neighborhoods! I know what it's like to be grow up being told to not go certain areas because "you might get robbed"! 

I understand pain, hurt and trauma!

But I also understand that one should vent strategically and not recklessly!




I get angry at stuff! I get angry at people! But I do it at the individual level! I get angry at people as individuals, NOT AS members of groups!

I understand people should just be judged as individuals!

So it is STUPID and RECKLESS to hate a person just because of what somebody else did to you! 


You want understanding?

How about understanding others?

Stop viewing other races as "monsters" out to get you!

Stop viewing all males as rapists, perverts, "mansplainers"  and sexists!

Start learning about the humanity of those who are the same ethnicity as those individuals who bullied you!

Start learning about the humanity of those who are the same gender as those individuals who abused you! 

It's not about "privilege" or "tone policing".

It's about growing up! It's about maturity!

It's about making your community and the world a better place!

Or as Rodney King once said "can we all just get along?"