Monday, August 04, 2014

Advice for High School Seniors

Last Saturday, I filmed another of my YouTube speeches, this one at the campus of McKinley High School.


Being that this week is start of the school year for Hawaii public schools, I wanted to make an "Advice for High School Seniors!"


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WrPC4jOP05U



Basically my advice for high school seniors is to cherish the moment, participate in some of the events, AND to recognize that you don't have to like everyone on campus to enjoy campus events and activities!


The reason I wanted to emphasize the "you don't have to like everyone on campus to enjoy campus events and activities" message is because

1) you can't let others stop you from having an enjoyable senior year, or an enjoyable life in general

2) if you think high school is rough, wait until you get into the real world. You can't expect to like everyone in your college or in your future jobs. While you will be annoyed (and more), you can't let that stop you from enjoying things

3) I actually knew classmates who didn't want to attend school events because they said "I don't like everyone on campus" SO WHAT?   If you have at least 1 friend, enjoy the times hanging with that 1 friend and talk about some fun stuff!

4) I also knew classmates who spent the whole time at one campus event complaining about the people he don't like. Look, if you're someone that you do get along with, then spent that time talking about something enjoyable! 
(too much time talking about problems erases the time you could spend enjoying the moment)


 In case you think I'm some kind of "positivity polyanna", let it be known that during my high school years, there was drama at home, annoying classmates, grew body hairs early in life, was racially different from overwhelming majority of my classmates, had speech impediments, was nonathletic, didn't have a large clique,  and much, much more! But SO WHAT?

I enjoyed spending time in classes that I liked, learned many cool things, had great lunch recesses (especially Junior year @ Shop Building), made interesting comments in class, yelled at pep rallies, enjoyed school events, and I did the unexpected!

The biggest unexpected of my senior year?  Singing at the talent show!

Nobody saw that coming, not even my closest friends.

I sang Usher's song "Nice & Slow" a capella at the Senior Luau, and Nate Dogg's "Never Leave Me Alone" at the schoolwide talent show!

I became a school celebrity!   :) 

I did not let all the negatives in my life stop me from taking initiative and doing the unexpected!

I did not let all the negatives in my life stop me from taking initiative and sing at the talent show!

I did not let all the negatives in my life stop me from making noises at pep rallies! 

I did not let all the negatives in my life stop me from enjoying times in my fun classes!

and most importantly


I did not let all the negatives in my life stop me from enjoying Project Graduation (the after-graduation party)  and ending my high school career with a bang! 



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For me, it's 15 years later and I am setting up the reunion. Even then, I'm not letting the negatives in my life stop me!

I could be an "emo" and be like "I'm too busy balancing work and school", "not everyone likes me", "I'm not wealthy" or all this other nonsense!

Screw that, I'm taking initiative and setting up the reunion (August 16, 2014 @ Jade Dynasty --- arrive at 5:30 with $30 in cash) and whether 10 or 100 show up, I'm going to live it up and enjoy!


Enjoy high school while you still can! Once it's gone, it's gone forever!

Enjoy your senior year!

Friday, July 18, 2014

Sometimes, You Just Gotta Do It!

Sometimes, if you want something done, you just gotta do it!


I made 2 YouTube speeches with the "You Just Gotta Do It" theme.


The 1st one focused on me organizing my high school reunion.


"You Just Gotta Do It" (part 1)


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The 2nd one focused on party settings --- saying "if you hear a song, Just Get On the Dancefloor"



"You Just Gotta Do It - part 2 (the party edition)"




The  message of both videos is "Don't let insecurities stop you!"

and

Sometimes, You Just Gotta Do It!"

Thursday, July 17, 2014

In memory of Dwayne Torres

Dwayne Torres was my classmate at UH-Manoa during my undergraduate years.

I first met his older brother William when I was working at the UH dorms back in 2000. Then one time, Dwayne came by to visit.

Later, in Spring 2002, I had Dwayne in my class for  Sociology 300 (Principles of Sociological Inquiry)  which was  research methods course required for all sociology majors.

I had a group project with him, Christine and Pasesa.

 Sometime during that group project, Dwayne was absent for a few weeks. He later came back to class. He said he was gone because he was in the process of signing up to join the military.  He said he was doing so, in hopes of being better able to finance his college education.

At least during the time we did the project, Dwayne did help me in making my survey questions easier for other student to understand :)

After that semester, I lost contact with him. 

Fast forward 12 years to this year.  Dwayne was in the National Guard doing a physical test when he fainted and later died.

http://www.staradvertiser.com/news/breaking/20140601_Soldier_who_died_after_fitness_test_was_Ewa_Beach_man_32.html?id=261470231 

The Hawaii Army National Guard soldier who died Friday after performing the Army physical fitness test has been identified as Dwayne Torres, 32, of Ewa Beach. 
Torres fainted while taking the physical test, was treated by an on-scene medic, and then transported to Wahiawa General Hospital, where he was pronounced dead around 7 a.m., according to the National Guard.
He was on active duty, meaning he worked full-time for the National Guard, and was a member of the Recruiting and Retention Battalion. 
The cause of death has not yet been determined.

I found out from a high school classmate who knew Dwayne from their time in the National Guard.


screenshot from KHON2 news report
http://khon2.com/2014/05/30/hawaii-army-national-guard-soldier-collapses-dies-during-physical-test/
Dwayne Torres

Monday, July 14, 2014

World Cup 2014

A few thoughts

1) About the US vs Belgium game

Tim Howard has shown that he is one of the greatest USA athletes, along the lines of Micheal Phelps, Muhammad Ali, Serena Williams, Mia Hamm, Hope Solo, Tiger Woods,  and Micheal Jordan.

Tim Howard broke the record for the most saves with 16 goals blocked. That means without Tim Howard's talents, Belgium could have scored 18 times, since Belgium actually made 2 goals

The problem for the USA team was that Belgium was even allowed 18 opportunities to score.

Belgium had much better control of the ball, and much better defensive strategy. They just overwhelmed the USA team, requiring Tim Howard to do all of the work.

On another bright side, USA soccer rookie Julian Green scored a goal in the game. That guy has a bright future.


2) Ann Coulter attacks

4 years ago, Right-Wing pundit Glenn Beck said that nobody in the US cares about soccer. He ended up feeling embarrassed when US TV ratings for the World Cup broke records.

Well, at least Glenn Beck feels embarrassed when proven wrong,


Ann Coulter however, feels no embarrassment about her useless cliches that only sounds clever to the uninformed.
http://www.anncoulter.com/columns/2014-06-25.html
http://www.anncoulter.com/columns/2014-07-02.html

She says that the increased ratings for USA soccer matches is no match for NFL games. She didn't bother to mention that USA matches in the World Cup this year got more viewers than the recent NBA Finals or the so-called "World Series" (a stupid name for a baseball championship for a league that has only 1 team outside the USA). When I mean more viewers, I mean more viewers in the USA!

That's right, more USA people watched USA vs Portugal than watched the Spurs smashed the Heat in the NBA Finals.


Ann Coulter than say soccer is a game for softies, that nobody gets hurt and therefore not a real sport. Ann Coulter is all talk, no action!

 I like see how Ann Coulter would react from getting kneed in the vertebrae, which is what Brazil's Neymar suffered.

Ann Coulter actually ran from a pie being thrown at her, so she has no business calling soccer (a contact sport, just like basketball) a "soft sport"

Ann Coulter mocked soccer players given a water break during a game. She said NFL players play in hot & humid conditions in places like Miami and New Orleans.

I know one place that is even more hot and humid than Miami and New Orleans --- Brazil!


Not only that, soccer players play BOTH defense and offense!

When's the last time Peyton Manning played defense? When's the last time Tom Brady played defense?

Oh wait a minute, you mean QBs take a water break when their team's defense is on the field? Who would've thought? 

Ann Coulter even questioned a sportswriter Mike Wise's manhood for (gasp) disagreeing with her!

As Camille Paglia said about Ann Coulter's doing the same to John Edwards
http://instapundit.com/archives2/003322.php

John Edwards got publicity for the wrong reason two weeks ago when Ann Coulter bizarrely called him a "faggot" at the Conservative Political Action Conference.... [S]atirists who play on gender themes need some whiff of self-knowledge, or they look ridiculous. Is Coulter truly oblivious to her gender weirdness? It's no coincidence that words like "tranny" and "transvestite" clog the anti-Coulter blogs. 


To add insult to injury, Ann Coulter also said

If more "Americans" are watching soccer today, it's only because of the demographic switch effected by Teddy Kennedy's 1965 immigration law. I promise you: No American whose great-grandfather was born here is watching soccer. 
Notice that Ann Coulter didn't say "No American whose ancestors were here before 1492" because as of you know, Ann Coulter thinks a "real American" is a descendant of Northern Europeans who came after 1492 and before 1892.

But there is one USA World Cup player whose ancestors were in America before 1492.


http://www.sacbee.com/2014/07/01/6525394/wondolowski-a-hero-to-the-native.html

USA soccer
Some of his ancestors are more American than Ann Coulter

Chris Wondolowski,the son of a Native American mother, has emerged as a football star over the past few years and made Oklahoma's tightly knit group of 12,000 Kiowa people care about a sport that never mattered to them before. 
So the chatter at the Kiowa Tribal Complex was a bit unusual Monday afternoon.
Brent Bear, Keith Vasquez and Steve Quoetone went back and forth about the United States soccer team. Among the questions: Could the U.S. handle Belgium's star-studded lineup in Tuesday's World Cup knockout stage showdown? Would Jurgen Klinsmann use more of an attacking style or sit back?
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There is no downplaying Wondolowski's impact on the towns of Carnegie, Hobart, Lawton and Anadarko, in the southwest part of Oklahoma where most Kiowa live. Native American athletes rarely make it in big-time sports, and certainly not in soccer. 
"I know there are a lot of kids that are willing to try the sport because there is a connection," Wondolowski's mother, Janis Hoyt, said. 
Members of the tribe cheered loudly and waved American flags during a watch party as the U.S. played to a draw against Portugal during group stage action. They exploded into cheers when he subbed into the match in the 87th minute. 
Though Wondolowski grew up in California, his mother, who is half Kiowa and half Cherokee, took him back to Oklahoma regularly to help him maintain a connection with his many relatives there. He received his Kiowa name, Bau Daigh, when he was 13 years old. It means "Warrior coming over the hill." He has the name on a tattoo on his right ribcage.

Ann Coulter also thinks the greater attention given in the USA to the World Cup is some type of liberal conspiracy.

Actually, it's more like US Americans don't want to feel left out when it comes to paying attention to the most popular single-sport tournament in the world! 

And while the US pretty much conquered international basketball (and individual sports like swimming, track, skating, etc.) we like the challenge of watching the USA face against the soccer-powers, hoping that one day, we can be THE soccer power, to be THE truly most dominant sports power.


3) impact on Brazil

Hosting the World Cup, as well as the 2016 Summer Olympics was supposed to show the world the new Brazil, the rising economic power, as well as the ultimate place to party!

Since Brazil won the rights to host those tournaments, economic growth has slowed a bit, making it hard to properly fund all projects in time.

FIFA demanded FIFA-quality stadiums. Well, the Brazilian public demanded top-quality schools, top quality hospitals, top-quality roads, and a whole bunch of things more important than a stadium.

And to make room for "FIFA quality facilities", people were forced out of their homes through eminent domain.

This brought out a lot of protests on the street, for which the Brazilian police reacted with militaristic equipment.

This goes to show that Brazil, while a rising economic power, still has a way to go when it comes to respecting human rights.

The days where repression gets overlooked for a sake of a sports tournament (like what happened in Mexico City in 1968) is over in the day of the Internet, YouTube, Facebook, Twitter and smartphones.

The 2018 and 2022 World Cup hosts have already been decided, with Russia and Qatar being the hosts. Russia is already being scrutnized for its LGBT policy as well its dealings with Ukraine and Georgia.  Qatar is notorious for its abuses of imported labor.

There already demands that the Olympics to not reward future hosting rights to countries that violate LGBT rights, in reaction to the 2014 Winter Olympics being hosted in Sochi, Russia.

The same level of worldwide public scrutiny will be more intense when FIFA reward World Cup hosting rights in the future.

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This World Cup was also supposed to be Brazil's time to shine as a sports power. Brazil was expected to win it all at home.

Things were going smooth until Neymar got injured. Though Brazil defeated Colombia in the same game Neymar got injured, they lost badly to Germany 7-1. That's worst than Germany's defeating USA 2-1.   Brazil then lost the 3rd place game to Netherlands.

4) Miscellaneous thoughts

- Colombia's group dancing after each goal added some spice to the games. Each country should do a dance. USA soccer team should have its own version of the touchdown dances you commonly see at NFL games.

 -- The Championship game -- Germany defeated Argentina in extra time.
After the game when the teams go up the stands and accept their medals,  you can see the fans extend their hands to the players. Of course there is a whole line of security guards there too.

Argentina players looked all sullen and refuse to shake their fans hands. Looks like poor sportsmanship to me.  The fans paid big money to be at the game, at least shake as many hands as you can, even if you lost.

The German players shaked their fan's hands.

Read more here: http://www.sacbee.com/2014/07/01/6525394/wondolowski-a-hero-to-the-native.html#storylink=cpy 




Read more here: http://www.sacbee.com/2014/07/01/6525394/wondolowski-a-hero-to-the-native.html#storylink=cpy

Saturday, July 12, 2014

Say No to Nicholai Khiterer

The following was sent to therapist Nicholai Khitierer

From : Pablo Wegesend
To : Nicholai Khiterer,

 The following page is what I sent to your supervisors informing them that you are an extremely inadequate therapist.  A copy has also been posted to my blog at http://pablowegesend.blogspot.com to inform people that whatever problems they might have, they are better off avoiding spending their hard-earned money on your services.


This is the following page that I sent to the director of  Kaiser Behavior Health

From: Pablo Wegesend
To: Kaiser Behavior Health Services

This letter is to inform you of why I am no longer be a client of Nicholai Khiterer.

Before I came to Kaiser Behavior Health Services, I was a client of an outside psychiatrist, Dr. Steven Williams of Queen’s Medical Center. With Williams, I was able to share my letters and discuss my feelings.  I worked with Dr Williams from 1999-2003 and returned for one session in 2014.

With Khiterer, however, I found a personality that I find to be condescending.
He said he doesn’t want to spend time reading letters.
He said he doesn’t want to spend too much time talking.
He seemed disinterested in speaking with my previous psychiatrist, even though I signed a consent form.
He questioned me with “you want to change your father? I won’t help with that” in a condescending tone, whereas my previous psychiatrist would just say in a nicer tone, “I may not be able to change your father, but I could help you reduce the tensions you might have with him.”
He is not clear about what the next sessions will be or what the plans are.

Khiterer comes across as an "idiot savant". Sure,he was able to pass exams and write research papers (which made him academically qualified for his current position) but his people skills are just horrible for someone in his position!  He thinks that talking down to people is the best way to get people to improve their mental health. It has the opposite effect. 

This letter will be posted on my blog http://pablowegesend.blogspot.com to notify any potential clients that this guy is dangerous to people's mental health!  This will be posted to let people know that whatever problems they might have, that they are better off not being his client.  This will be posted to so that people don't waste their hard-earned money being a client of an idiot-savant that talks down to pscyhologically vulnerable people. 

If you have any questions please contact me  at (contact info deleted for this blog post). 


Mahalo, 

Pablo Wegesend




The only reason I only had one session with Dr Williams in 2014 was because my insurance doesn't cover his services, so I started using Kaiser Behavior Health (KBH). I started with KBH to save money.  Khiterer (under KBH) is a waste of money.

Unless you're with Kaiser Behavior Health, I will NOT answer any further questions about this issue! 



PS: If your name appears on my blog posts in a negative manner, you are more than just an average annoying person, you are dangerous to people's psychological health!  You need  exposure to the light because a person like you thrive on the silence of their victims.  But now that I'm done with this blog post, I will now move on and enjoy the finer things in life!

Friday, July 11, 2014

Hook-ups and Fear Mongering

One of the major topics today is sports injuries. There are concussions, torn ACLs, injured vertebrae, dislocated shoulders and much more!

What if someone said "let's just stop all sports already"?

Wouldn't that sound stupid?

Of course it does!


Because sports, while it has potential for danger, also brings great joy and fun!


Now, apply that to a different situation.

Some Conservative Correctness activists say that "the hook-up culture contributes to sexual assault and therefore we should end hook-up culture of casual sex".

From Mona Charen
http://townhall.com/columnists/monacharen/2014/07/11/how-to-fight-sexual-assault-n1860914/page/full


Doubtless I will be accused of "victim blaming," but it must be said that the reason the AAUW, university administrators, the Department of Education and most importantly, young men and women themselves are so confused about how to handle the wave of campus rape (and unwanted sex) is that they've created a social environment -- the boozing hookup culture -- that invites bad behavior.
(and more)

Women are being victimized on campuses and off. But writing op-eds is not where their power lies. They can protect themselves better by staying sober and out of the hookup world. 

Isn't that almost the same thing as saying  "sports cause injuries therefore you should never play sports"


Just like there's more to sports than gruesome injuries, there's a lot more to hookup culture than just rape, STDs and pregnancies.

A lot of people get great joy from playing sports and even more get great joy from hook-ups!

Of course, in sports and hook-ups, you have to be careful! It's best to know what you're getting into and to know how to handle awkward situations.

But to tell people to avoid fun situations entirely is just fear mongering!

Just like there are jock straps and helmets for sports, there are condoms, diaphragms and other contraceptives for sex.


And just like those who can't handle rough play shouldn't feel pressured into playing tackle football, those who are uncomfortable with sexual situations shouldn't feel pressured into "hooking up".

In other words, individuals can figure out what's best for them AND to change direction if they no longer enjoy the activity. 

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Plus, most of this hook-up culture stuff always leading to actual sexual intercourse isn't even always true! Most of the time, it's just hand-holding, back rubs, tickles and "making out" (kissing).

 Even in nightclubs, places notorious for hook-ups, freak dancing and twerking, much of the boy-girl action isn't even going to lead into sexual intercourse. What happens WAY MORE OFTEN is one-song-stands which means


  • boy meets girl
  • they dance and rub on each other for 1 (sometimes 2) songs
  • they separate and that's it!


Not so scary, isn't it!


But it happens way more often than the scary scenarios that Conservative Correctness People always warn you about!


The Need for Peace and Quiet



In a person's lifespan, one can go from being a child that can't handle loud noise to a teenager that likes loud noise,  to an adult who gets irritated by noise!


I still like big stereos, block parties and nightclubs. 



But jackhammers, leaf blowers, car alarms, lawn mowers, construction machines and anything that pounds irritate the living stuff out of me!

This summer, I'm spending a lot of time at the UH-Manoa campus.

Most of the time, at the libraries, which are  quiet as they should be.

But after a few hours of reading or looking at screens, I want fresh air.

Problem is, there are several renovation projects going on at UH-Manoa during the daytime, making it hard to find a place that has fresh air and peace & quiet.

And even in areas that are far from the renovation projects, just when I think I'm safe .....................................the leaf blowers and lawn mowers are making noise.


I think leaf blowers are over-rated. Can't the workers just use a push broom?


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Just the other day, I was outside Aina Haina Public Library waiting for it to be open, so I can do a library setting observation assignment and a library program observation assignment. Problem was, while I was waiting outside,someone was using a generator-powered pressurized water hose was on the ground in front of the soon-to-be-opened Starbucks. The generator was loud and irritating as hell!   I had to go to the opposite side of Aina Haina Shopping Center be away from the noise until the library was opened.

Later on that day, when I finally went home, I called my mom (first time this month) and during the phone conversation, I heard a car alarm. Some guy trying to fix his car outside and his alarm was going off!  I was annoyed as hell!

Happiness returned when that guy got his car out of there!
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Don't misunderstand me, I recognize the importance of construction, renovation, road repairs and other noisy projects going on!



However, I really hope the next wave of manufacturing technology will be quieter construction and other machines!